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writes:so, I will be starting university next month and i am scared I will overdose on freedom!!I have never had freedom before, not in the slightest and because I will be living in halls, life will be so different to living at home where I am not allowed to date, to go out in the evenings or weekends etc..anyway, guess what I am really asking is, how do i strike a happy balance between my study and social life/work? My parents expect me to get good results as I always have and I would rather not let them down. How do i stop myself from getting stoned on freedom lol?? I have a feeling I will go insane and just forget about study..thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2006): *possibly bad advice coming...*
University life - ahh - it's great. You're in your first year, the last thing you should be thinking about is doing work! Very likely that your mark in the first year won't even count to your degree. Plus - your parents won't even know your grade, you can quite easily mumble something about getting a perfectly respectable 2:1, or something.
I had the most crazy time at university, I barely went to any lectures in my first year but I have some memories that will last me a life time - plus I met plenty of really great friends.
I later went on to be a Resident Assistant in a halls of residence, spent a year looking after first years and making sure they enjoyed themselves so I do understand the line between crazyness and degree failure.
Work as hard as you feel happy doing, but don't get too bogged down or be left feeling like you are letting yourself or your parents down. I met so many people who worked hard in their first two years, and by the third year they really regretted it because they had missed out and by then everyone else was in full working mode.
You sound like your going to be fine, you sound sensible and intelligent and I think you are going to have an amazing time!
My advice to you is make sure you are brave and don't be scared to introduce yourself to people when you first arrive. Everyone is in the same boat as you, and they are all desperate to make friends and fit in.
Enjoy! - it'll be a life changing experience for sure!
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reader, Wild Thaing  +, writes (21 August 2006):
 Sign up for courses that you really would enjoy so that they stand a fighting chance for your time when October comes and the real work begins.
If you have felt "repressed" at home, you will probably not be able to stop yourself from going overboard in September. Don't worry too much about it - allow yourself to enjoy the new experiences! Uni is so much more than the academic education; it's also about learning to make your way in life.
If you have good study habits going into Uni then they will come in handy in October. If you are taking courses that are really interesting then they will serve as motivation to study.
It's going to be a great ride in September. Don't forget to have a little fun before you get down to work. Good luck and take care.
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