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writes:I want to be able to support my gay friend. How can I try and understand?I really want to be able to support my friend as he is gay but I think he worries about finding partners and having homosexual relationships. He likes this guy but we don't know if he is gay or not. This must be a common frustration among homosexuals?We chat about boys etc but I think he has never actually had a gay relationship. I don't think there is anyone he can really talk to about it. He's fully embraced his sexuality but I think it is still very new for him. How do I make sure he knows he can talk to me about these things?I get shy talking about relationships but I can see he is struggling and he is really important to me. I really want to make the effort to understand what he is going through.Help me to understand please!
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reader, Dextro69 +, writes (23 October 2007):
 after speaking to a few gay friends
they would suggest you both visit
http://www.gaydar.co.uk/
looking together would be best as you could learn together it is a chat room site but there are diffrent rooms that deal with diffrent problems or just normal chat. tell him to be carful tho as there is a lot of people who just meet up with someone they have just started chating to in one of the rooms, (my old house mate did this all the time)
Remember tho all the guys and girls on the site have gone through the same themselves at one point.
as for the guy he likes he just needs to ask
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (23 October 2007):
 It looks like your gay friend has some pretty solid support already from you.
I wouldnt worry, at the end of the day its up to him to explore his sexuality. But if you want to help you can ask the question yourself. By that I mean, if you are in a social situation and your mate fancies some bloke, then its pretty easy for you to find out if he's gay. 1. You simply ask him.
AT the end of the day, a young gay man needs friends as he still has to cope with the narrow mindedness of the general population. It sounds like he's getting plenty of good quality friendship from you as it is.
p.s. perhaps he could help fix YOU up with a straight guy huh? (i.e. he can ask a bloke if he's interested in you !) These things should work both ways No?
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reader, natnatxxx +, writes (23 October 2007):
 Adjusting to a friend's sexuality is hard. When both my friends, one boy, one girl, confessed to me they were bisexual i nearly screamed and felt completely terrified and freaked out by them.
Worrying about your friend is normal but Just be supportive, show him your trust and he'll hopefully open out to you.
Being Bisexual or fullygay isn't as big of a day as people make out, it just means they like another gender. If he's got issues, be sure to make him know you're there for him.
I didnt really understand your question so i tried to help as hard as i could
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