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writes:my bf of a year now is kind of treating me bad lately and gets upsets very very easy...he was not like that in the beginning.why is he acting like this..he gets upset when i'm giving hugs to other guys who's actually one of my best friends.when i asked him about it and said to him he's unnecessary to be acting like that, he asked me ain't my friendship enough for you why do you need them and he also said that when im making these mistakes it's always right but when he does it i always flips out and is mad at him, and he dumped his best best friend (female) why can't i also do that. can you please tell me why is he like this now lately well i played him one time and i told him about it but that was earlier on in the relationship..he has not been calling me for two days after this hug thing..how can i test him if his really inlove with me and loves me terribly like he always say it but i don't actually feel it. Please let me know what you guyz think.thanks
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reader, happytochat  +, writes (30 January 2008):
I think that you have already tested his love for you- by giving him time. Often when you first meet someone, they seem so loving and perfect, but its with time that there TRUE colours beguin to show. With your bf, this is what has happened. He seemed great at first, because he was trying to impress you (and it obviously worked) but slowly he has given up puttting on the act and has let his true colours show through- and his true colours arent very good it seems as you feel he is treating you badly.
I think that, as you have given him time, that has tested his love for you, and it shows that he isnt a very loving person at all.
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reader, TELLULAH  +, writes (30 January 2008):
 Sorry honey, but this Guy needs to grow up. If he is treating you horribly, thats not showing much love is it?. He is obviously the jealous kind of guy, and feels really insecure with himself. But you dont treat someone you love like that.
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reader, Tweets  +, writes (30 January 2008):
 Well lets just start with that you are at an age where you should be enjoying lots of dates and lots of freinds, males and females. Hugs to everyone!! Any man or woman who wants to stop you from your friendships is trying to control you. You need to stop this. If he is telling you that you should drop your friends, what's next? Don't have a job,a cell phone, stay in the house and wait for only him. You should not be exclusive to just him anyway. If a man or a woman truly trusts and loves you, there would be no issue of giving friends hugs hello or goodbye. You need to get out of this manipulating and controling relationship, it is only going to get worse. There should also be no reason to play him. Sorry, the only "test" is human nature. Good Luck.
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reader, Laura1318  +, writes (30 January 2008):
 Act cold towards him and see how he responds.Don't call or see him for a while.
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