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How can I tell when a woman is sexually aroused?

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Question - (20 February 2008) 4 Answers - (Newest, 20 February 2008)
A male Belize age 26-29, anonymous writes:

I have a question about arousal. How can I tell when a woman is sexually aroused? Is this something that you can tell when a woman is fully clothed or is this only noted when she is in the nude? At this point is she ready for intercourse or is foreplay necessary?

What information do you have about bringing a woman to sexual arousal? Does this take her letting go and knowing that it is ok to become aroused?

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A male reader, chlez83 Zambia +, writes (20 February 2008):

A girl's vagina can get wet just by looking at you but that don't mean she's ready for sex.You need to do some more work to make her ready for sex.E.g You may be sitted next to her in a cinema and she may get turned on but that's just a 1st stage called Excitement.Sign are:

Her nipples become erect

Her vagina starts becoming lubricated

Her clitoris begins to swell and grow larger

The inner parts of her vagina begin to expand

Her breasts may even increase in size if she becomes highly aroused

She's still not ready for sex.Then comes da Plateau stage..This second stage does not occur as frequently as the arousal or excitement stage. In fact, most incidents of arousal never reach this level. So when does a woman reach this level? Well, she will require more physical stimulation. Foreplay, for example, will help her move to this stage, so does increased fantasizing. During this stage, sexual tension inside her body is growing. Signs are

Breasts may increase noticeably in size

The vagina swells and the vaginal opening begins to narrow

The clitoris becomes more erect

Her heart beat may increase noticeably

The color of the labia minora will change from pink to either red or wine-color

Third stage is what is commonly known as Orgasm.After her body is truly ready for intercourse and if she is receiving the proper stimulation – usually clitoral – then it does not take long for her to reach the third stage. Signs at this stage include:

Muscle contractions – Intense muscle contractions through the pelvic area will occur during the orgasm. A woman can have three to fifteen of these contractions depending on the strength of her orgasm. She may also experience muscle contractions in other parts of the body as well.

Most women's bodies become temporarily rigid at the highest point of their orgasm. This lasts for only a moment, but its something you may notice.

The “sex flush” is another indicator of orgasm. At this stage, it becomes brighter and more noticeable. It may also have spread to other areas of her body.

Hope that helps.

Take your time don't rush into sex!

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A female reader, Laura1318 Malaysia +, writes (20 February 2008):

Laura1318 agony auntWhen a man is aroused , he gets hard.

When a woman is aroused , she gets wet, her nipples perked up.

You can Google this question for more details online.

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A female reader, masquerade711 Canada +, writes (20 February 2008):

masquerade711 agony auntI would have to agree, it's probably male instinct. (Although I'm not a guy so this is all just a guess on my part.) Every woman is different. Some will moan or wimper when they're aroused, some will full on yell or scream or just be loud in general. If she is, you'll be able to tell. :)

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A reader, anonymous, writes (20 February 2008):

An experience guy would definately say body language, and it's true. Attracted or aroused? They differ greatly. An aroused girl might shift positions to try to ward off the feelings we get in our personal regions. Maybe even squirm. If it's a blatant act of sex going on between you, lots of sighing, soft moaning, lots of writhing, etc. You'll know, trust me. It's like a guy instinct. XD That's what my man said.

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