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lasmiley1364
writes: hi well i nned some help im 18 and i want to have a baby...i love kids n i have been taking care of them sence i was 13..or maybe even younger..i just dont know how to tell my boyfriend that i want a baby..whats the easiest way to tell some one u want a baby without freaking them out??
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reader, Jen86  +, writes (12 June 2008):
are you 100% sure you want a baby now? If so answer the following questions:
1)How old is he?
2)How long have you ben together?
3)Do you think he is ready for children?
4)How will you financially support the child and raise it at the same time?
5)Where will you live?
6)What will happen to the child if you don't stay together?
7)What will you do if you need some time alone?
8)How will you cope with no night off and constantly looking after a child?
If you have positive answers for all of these and you can stand on your own two feet with no help from your parents/friends/relatives, as this isn't always guarenteed, then I suggest just telling him. If not, wait until you can answer every single question otherwise it will not only be unfair to the baby but also to yourself and your partner.
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reader, SugarCookie  +, writes (12 June 2008):
I think that the first thing to do is see if you can really afford a baby. No matter how much you love a baby that doesn't feed or clothe them. The next thing to think about is if you and your boyfriend haven't talked about kids them you aren't very far along in your relationship and you should maybe be more certain on your partner, but if you are hell bent on asking thenI would bring up the future. Ask about marriage and how many kids you want and what age he feels would be right. The best you can say is that you are ready at any moment to have a child but you have to respect if he is not. Dont "accidently" forget to take the pill or tell him you are to hot to wait for a condom it isn't fair to him. His first moment as a father should be when he is ready or he will feel overwhelmed and not ready and could even feel like a failure as a dad. If you want a baby that bad then find another man who is ready now.
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reader, Wintry  + ♥, writes (12 June 2008):
 Firstly, I advise you to seriously take this whole matter into consideration. You are only 18 and have your whole future ahead of you. But i respect you for knowing you are ready to take that step in your future.
Secondly, when you and your bf hav time alone, ask him if he ever thought of having kids, and if by chance you got pregnant, he'd still be with you. Its really important to ask him those questions even if you are in a commited relationship.
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reader, Short timer +, writes (12 June 2008):
 1. get married 2. be finnancially able to care for a child
3. talk with your husband that you want to have a child 4. go to a planned parenthood center
link-http://www.plannedparenthood.org/
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