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writes:Hi, I'm currently in 9th grade and I've been having a crush on a girl since mid-6th grade, and currently, she knows this and I think she tries to be evident that she doesn't like me. She doesn't talk to me, she tries to move to the opposite side of the corridor when I am walking along and during class, she looked away while I was answering a question.How did this start? well, I told this person who used to be my fiend in 6th grade that I liked the girl, and told me I had to change my appearance and stop being weird and nerdy and disgusting. So I had to start wearing DCs, wear oversized uniforms and wear caps. when I was still convinced of this plan, he suddenly told her that I liked her only days after I started my changes and he did it in front of her friends so over the years, my crush on her had been well known and this kid is now someone I really hate because of blackmails and his annoying attitude. I also started going back to how I was; Never wearing caps, not wearing DCs, acting however the heck I want, dressing however the heck I want. As of now, she is still permanently offline to me on yahoo and only talked to me once in the whole entire school year last year when I asked her to sign a goodbye card for a mutual friend. I still like her a lot and since she is now in a few of my classes, I feel I may have a few chances of stopping her from hating me so much, but I still do not know what to do. I don't know what to say to her, and I keep thinking that If I do, she'll just try and turn around and run off or do something that will make me feel more rejected. As for additional information to help you help me, I am a pretty good artist to my friends and I play guitar (But I am very enthusiastic about metal, rock and mostly guitar stuff, which she doesn't really like) I also am crazy over video games and sci-fi. which is probably another turn-off. I also am not very comfortable with starting long projects at home because I am very sensitive about this and I don't want my parents or my incredibly annoying brother to have much to do with this at all, especially since I am not allowed to lock my room.Please, I really love this girl and I want to find ways to start a relationship or fix the puddle of muddle it currently is. I'd appreciate it greatly if any of your suggestions manage to work out.
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reader, Denn96 +, writes (28 August 2010):
Denn96 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for your suggestion, If I should talk to her, when should I do it? Should I confront her alone? (when she rarely is) and what should I say?
Also, I forgot to mention that right before she went permanently offline to me, she told me on yahoo that I should go and pick other people and why did I like her. I was nervous at the time and said "you're pretty" since I was panicing over what to say. The friend She signed the card for also told me that I gave her (not the friend) a bad first impression after he had heard it from her. And finally, should I do things in the subjects we both share to get me more noticable to her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2010): the girl is probably just scared of the outcome if she ever became close to you...or she might like you but stays away because of her friends, alot of girls do that...if your not close to her friends and they dont like you then she might be scared of their reaction if she were ever to go out with you...i think you should confront her and tell her how you feal and how confused you are and if your to shy to do it in persone give her a letter...you seem like a realy nice guy alot of my closest friends arent cool and where dc shoes they just play video games and practice music and every one calls them geeks but the truth is there nicer then any of the''cool'' guys...you need to find a way to show this girl who you realy are and how great of a guy u can be if she lets you in.
good luck
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