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writes:I have been going out with my bf for 2 months...the other night things were getting really heated and he really wanted to finger me, i wasn't sure because I've never been fingered before but let him.....but after 5 seconds or so it had tell him 2 stop it really hurt...is this normal? i really want to let him do it but now really scared its going to hurt!!! any advice??? Reply to this Question
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reader, sarcy24 +, writes (1 June 2009):
 This can hurt if you are not fully turned on and you need to be very wet. Make sure you feel excited and fully aroused before he does this. Also make sure his nails are short. I am not very keen myself but if I think about something which really turns me on or a favourite sought of fantasy it will make me wet enough to enjoy the experience. If you are quite young you will also be quite tight so it would naturally be a little painful to begin with.
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reader, Fofhino  +, writes (1 June 2009):
Just also be careful about nails if he bites his there might some little sharp corners that will def hurt you so just check that A great helper is KY Lube and afcourse make him go slow even if its extremely slow some guys get to "excited" and go to quick :-) Hope this helps and you many more days of sexual fun and pleasure !
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reader, koenig +, writes (1 June 2009):
I presume since you haven't been fingered, that you also haven't had sex.This is probably something that will go away once you've had sex because that stretches the hymen out etc. That's probably not much help for you because the last thing you want to do is get into bed with someone too soon.It could be hurting you for a lot of reasons... But here are some times that might help:1. Get him to be slower and more gentle2. If he's using more than 1 finger, ask him to just use 13. Try it yourself - I know that some girls feel like they're doing something wrong if they masturbate, but it's good for you and good for your partner your partner and completely natural. That way you'll have an idea about what will be good for you and what will hurt you.4. Gently, do it more, but stop when it hurts. You might loosen things up and make it more comfortable.If you were talking about him fingering your clit instead of your vagina, that's a bit different. But again, try touching yourself and then you'll know how you'll like it and you'll be able to give him tips.Remember, sexual things like being fingered, should be for your pleasure not his, so if you don't want it or you want it differently, you should tell him.It's quite normal actually, so don't worry, you're not alone :)
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