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writes:I just broke up with my boyfriend of 4 years he cheated over ten times! I finally kicked him out. I don't wanna be stupid anymore I see now that he will never change. I thought I could help him change and now I know he can only change his self! So he's trying to call and he is texing me baby let's make up and I haven't respond to any of his calls or tex message. How can I stay strong and not let what he says get to me! I wanna stay out this relationship. I want him out my life! Its just so hard and I always take him back! This time I've really done a god job I haven't seen him in two weeks that's a first so how can I stay strong!
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reader, lilmisse2424 +, writes (27 March 2008):
 Hey,
You did the right thing by leaving him. It might be tough, and you have been with him for 4 years. You deserve better. You also did the right thing by kicking him out. You are also doing the right thing by ignoring his phone calls and texts. By doing so, he will start to get the message and leave you alone. Then from there, you can live your life again.
Also, definitely surround yourself with a good group of friends and activities. By busying yourself, you can get your mind off of things and him. You definitely deserve better. Keep doing what you are doing and be strong. I hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): the thing is that ultimatly you deserve better, you should have a boyfriend who treats you like a queen and moves the earth for you.
stop being in dennial-he's cheated 10 times once is bad enough.
find someone who will woo (never thought id use that word) you!
it will get easier. just move on.
i have a wonderful boyfriend now-he is so loving and we've been together for 4 1/2 years.
i had to move on from my last boyfriend to find the happiness with this one.
be strong!
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 March 2008): Lazyguy (not sure why he might be lazy, his mind is strong :) is right on. Either block his calls, and of course, he could use other peoples phone, so you might consider having your phone number changed, and don't have it published. You still will have to worry about him showing up at your doorstep, so where you live, hopefully someone is close by that can provide you help in a seconds notice.
For writting things down, that is a great idea, and this works for many things.
You have taken your first step towards independence and knowing what you will and won't tolerate. You were a worthy girlfriend, but he didn't see it, that is his tough luck. Now time to move on!
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reader, Harbbey3000  +, writes (26 March 2008):
well its good that u took a firm decision,d first step 2 stayin strong is 2 remind urself constantly that u r better off without him,then u could try gettin urself very busy,get a hobby,change ur looks maybe ur hair style,cut or color,look 4 ways 2 enjoy ursef and that way u will spend less time worryin abt him
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (26 March 2008):
 Write down why you shouldn't take him back. Why he is bad for you. Write it down and keep it with you, then when your hearts starts wondering READ IT.
Not sure if that works for anyone, but it worked for me. You just got to make sure that your MIND is doing the decision making not your hearth.
You can also block his calls etc on a modern phone, the less temptation the better. Try and cut him out completly from you life and not allow him to creep back in however innocent and reasonable it may seem.
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reader, kirstylou  +, writes (26 March 2008):
 hey hun
im sorry to hear what's happened! you've done the right thing though by kicking him out, someone like that will never change.
keep doing what you're doing though, ignore his texts and calls, he will soon leave you alone and then you can start living your life again. You deserve someone so much better, someone that wont cheat on you.
also try and keep busy, go out with friends etc..that will take your mind off it and will help u move on!
good luck hun and be strong!
you know its right what your doing :)
kirsty x x x
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