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writes:I know my boyfriend loves me more than he's ever loved anybody. And i know that these feelings scare him. He always gets too scared and breaks up with me. He's done it twice. Recently i found out that the first time we broke up he slept with someone from his work and a week later he realised he couldn't live without me and wanted me back. Because i am crazy inlove with him i took him back without knowing he had done this. After the most recent breakup he jumped straight into bed with a different girl. He apparently likes her but is still totally inlove with me and can't let me go and wants to be with me. I want to be with him too but am unsure about this "other girl that he "likes". He says he never "cheated" on me and technically he didn't. But because he wants to get back with me afterwards it's like he wants to have his cake and eat it too. I think he knows i'm always going to take him back and so does pretty much what he wants. How do i move on when i am inlove with him and he won't stop telling me he loves me too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2009): Dear, I had also been unto the same waters. My best friend told me that he does not have feelings for me but he cannot seem to let go of me. What's more, I feel and even see that he gets attracted to so many women at a time that I oftentimes feel he is just doing this so as to scare me away or something. I guess that this is the time to move on my dear. I read of one article that really helped me. It had said: "it does not necessarily mean that we are not 'right' in this person's eyes, we are no longer 'right' in the eyes of someone else." I do hope that helps.
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reader, raven100  +, writes (8 August 2009):
Hi,
SouthernNewbie is totally right, this guy is just a guy, but you need a man, a real man. Good guys don't do such things. It's a matter of a character, strong will and being honest. People don't change very often, he probably won't be an exception. He did it twice, don't let him to unrespect you. Just have a self-respect ... you need a new life with a better guy. Love is just a state of mind, don't worry, find a better man and love him. We humans are very simple, and we just can't admit we are. You can be happy again!
I keep my fingers crossed!
R.
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reader, Southern.Newbie  +, writes (8 August 2009):
I know you have probably heard this more then enough when i say "i know how you feel" BUT i really do. I've been in a similar situation and its far from nice and very hurtful! All i can say really is maybe its best to lose touch with this guy, sounds easier then it will be i know but if he's done this to you more then once there's nothing to say he wouldnt do it again and again. Try as hard as you can to put him to the back of your mind and move on, start your life off properly and find yourself another friend.. take things slow and see what happens. I done what i have just advised you and now i have a new boyfriend and life, away from all the hurt.. now im happier then i've ever been! I hope this helps a little.Southern.Newbie x
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