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writes:im so confused about my feelings at the moment. my ex broke up with me about a year and a half ago. she meant so so much to me and i was affected so much. she broke up with me when i was in year 10 and since then ive had dreams about her and i cant manage to create new relations. im a virgin, i havn't gone far with any girl because i believe that i should be in a good, trusting relationship before i can go too far with anyone, i would never think of having sex before i know that i love my partener. im finding it hard to love. a few girls have liked me and have openly told me their feelings for me and ive tried to like them, i really have, but i just cant. i miss my ex.its not lust.can anyone give me advice on how to move on? i cant talk to my ex either. we were going out for 7 months without an argument. i realise now that that was very unhealthy. we have nothing against each other but we just can't talk in person.i feel like my heart is breaking down.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2008): I can understand how much you miss this girl and how hard it is to stop thinking about her as you like her so much. My only advice on this is to try your hardest to stop thinking about her. There is no other way really :S sorry! And its a shame that you cant talk to her in person because by the sounds of it you two got on really well :)
i wouldnt rush into any deep relaitionships atm if your ex is still on your mind.
You say you might like someone else now. Maybe you should try talikng to her and see how she feels... and find out whether she is like the others. Theres nothing to loose.
Hope everything goes swell! :D
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reader, jezman +, writes (21 May 2008):
jezman is verified as being by the original poster of the question thankyou very much your advice is good to hear.
i dont know why i cant talk to her.
i know shes far from perfect :P
come to think of it i dont think we were really friends in the relationship anyway. thankyou i think im starting to like another girl now anyway :D
thankyou x
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (21 May 2008):
No arguing in a relationship is not Unhealthy. It sounds like you spend a lot of time trying to work out what went wrong.
If you go out with someone in School or at work then you run the risk of having to see them every day after you break up.
The thing is that this girl in your head is probably not like the real thing. You've made her perfect in your mind so no other girl stands a chance.
You talk about sex and you obviously worry she's going to stop you from finding someone to lose it with. Don't, you have all the time in the world to meet someone special.
There is no easy way to get over someone. You say you can't talk in person. Why not? If you actually spoke to her you may see she's not as perfect as you think.
Keep going and make a real effort not to think about her. Fill your time with mates and hobbies and you will manage it one day.
Good Luck!! xx
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