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writes:Dear cupid, how can you move on and forgive yourself for hurting the love of your life? How do you get over it?I unexpectedly met an amazing guy a little over a year ago, and we got together. Not to sound like a typical woman but he was the best boyfriend ever. He was everything you could of asked for in a man. He was the only person I ever trusted. I know I can never find someone like him ever again. I feel like he really was the love of my life. We are no longer together.Not trying to make excuses for myself but I was quite immature and in a dark place when we got together. I had a lot of bad things going on in my life, and most of the time I wasn't thinking straight. I ended up doing things that hurt my boyfriend over the course of our relationship. I feel like such a horrible person for what I've done, I wish I could start over with him and take everything back but unfortunately you can't do that.I beat myself up over all of this, I hate myself for the pain I've caused him. I can't seem to forgive myself. Him and his family and friends all probably think I'm a horrible person. I'm still in love with him and I really do care about him a whole lot, he was the best person in the world to me. I know his trust in me is completely broken and I feel so terrible about it. I want to become a better person.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2014): I will be straight to the point , just get on with life , focus on making yourself a better person. so when the next person comes along , you are ready and wont go to a dark place .you are young , I am only 26 but I am completely a different person to what I was at 18. also don't mope around , and dwelling on the past , I had a girlfriend who I loved about 4 years ago now , and I am yet to meet somebody else I like as much .. why ? because all I do is dwell on the past and not focus forward ... yet she has had other partners and seems ok has even said to me , you can meet somebody you care about as much .. so please listen to my advice and not get too caught up on it :)
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reader, dougbcoll +, writes (2 April 2014):
 if you really love him, and want him back in your life, go to him and tell him from your heart you have hurt him, and you love him.
you have nothing to loose and hopefully him to gain. if you do not even try you will always wonder what might have been, what could have been. just pour your heart out and leave it at that, the rest will be on him to forgive.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 April 2014): He is probably not as perfect as you think. Your mistake took away your choice to stay in the relationship. It is the lack of choice that makes him more desirable in your eyes. We always want what we cannot have. Just recognize it. Make up for your mistake in the next relationship. He will think how wonderful and irreplaceable you are..
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reader, NeedUrgentHelp  +, writes (1 April 2014):
Hi, I can completely understand, I am madly in love with someone I met a year ago and feel he's my soulmate...but my parents refuse to let me marrry him. I feel sick inside to hurt him like this...If I were you - I'd try my level best to get he love of my life back.
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