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*taceyshusband
writes:My wife said she doesn't feel important to me what do I do? Right now she said she needs a break what are some things I can do to make her feel special and to show how much I really love her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 July 2009): This is probably not going to be the most appealing or 'romantic' answer - but I think you should offer to go to relationships counselling with her - there is obviously some sort of 'crisis' in your relationship - at least for her, by offering to go to therpay with her (or asking if she'll go with you perhaps) you will be showing her how seriously you take what she has said, and how serious you are about making the changes she needs you to make to feel good in the reltionship again.
It may not be an easy solution - chances are it will bring up lots of difficult topics/issues- but there is the opportunity for you both to reconnect and work on the relationship - and perhaps stop it going down a more negative path.
Hope things work out for you.
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reader, noonespecial2  +, writes (10 July 2009):
Ask her what you do that doesn't make her feel special and listen without arguing, defending etc...When she tells you why she doesn't feel special, you will have your answer. Thank her for telling you and change what it is that's making her feel that way.Make sure you respect her sexually and watch out if you are viewing porn, perving on other women, rushing sex or ignoring her when other people are around.
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reader, laura585 +, writes (10 July 2009):
When she said she "wants a break" did she mean like a vacation with you, a vacation alone, or a break from the relationship? All of these breaks are very different and depending on her answer the advice I offer would be different for each one... maybe some clarification?
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reader, ilovebowsandcherries  +, writes (10 July 2009):
 if she wants a break arrange a little spar day at a fancy hotel for her pampering and being wined and dined then stay in the hotel for the night just relax away from the home.
girls like being pampered :) she could get a massage to help destress her body and loosen her muscles perhaps go for a swim then sauna.
Hotel spar is recommeneded :) and stay the night away from it all somewhere where people wait on you hand and foot somewhere calming and relaxed.
or take a short break away somewhere out the country doesn't have to be too far :)
hope this helps
x ilovebowsandcherries x
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reader, thatgothgirl20 +, writes (10 July 2009):
 Hmmmmm....If she needs a break give her one.When the break is over with spend more time with her. Keep in mind that she will have to look insider her own heart about this and you will have to communicate with her about these feelings she is having and why she is having them.
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reader, Ginalolabridga + ♥, writes (10 July 2009):
 Arrange a break somewhere romantic with her if you feel she would like that if not then arrange some quality time for her maybe a day at the spa etc:
To show her she is special to you do things for her that will tell her, small things like doing all the housework so she has me time, do her ironing too just to let her see you are capable of these things she will appreciate that if she normally is the one who sees to them.
Also make time to tell her you love her tell her you cant live without her tell her you want to grow old with her!
More importantly respect and stay loyal to her these two things alone go a long way in showing a woman you care.
If your only married a few years i would take a look at anything that has happened that has made her question this and try to rectify it that will help too.
Be there for her when she wants to talk be a listening ear, offer to take her wherever she wants to go it could be for a meal at her favourite restaurant or just a walk in the park let her see more than anything you are wanting her in your life forever.
Good Luck.
Gina
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