A
male
age
51-59,
anonymous
writes:I went out a couple of times with a girl last year but our relationship did not become a sexual one. She has had emotional difficulties and has been in quite a bad way and for some months she did not want to go out with me. I thought it was over but she clearly wants to be friends and at her suggestion we went out last week for a quick drink after work. We get on really well and I think she is truly amazing. I'm aware that I probably scared her a bit last year by asking her out too often. I want to progress things now and wonder about what to do to for Valentines. I don't want to scare her away again but I think she is really special and I want to let her know how I feel, in a nice discrete way. Any advice? Reply to this Question
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reader, Millyella  +, writes (8 February 2007):
 Yes, don't make a big deal out of valentine's day. It's early days for the two of you. I agree with the other 'aunt'; as this lady has been through some tough times in the last year it would be best to leave the decisions up to her. Tell her that you are happy to spend time with her when she wants; just to let you know. Being a friend, and being there for her is very important now. Take it slowly; it seems like that's what she wants and needs.
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reader, cd206 +, writes (8 February 2007):
 Buy her a card and write something like this inside.
Dear X,
This card is to show you how much I care for you. I totally understand and respect the fact that you don't want to date so I'm not going to ask you again but I want you to tell me if you ever change your mind. For now, know that I will stay your friend.
xx
CD
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