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writes:I'm 15 and I like this girl a lot, but the problem is she hates me, plain and simple. What can I do to make her not hate me. I'm not that bad of a person, I'm kind and considerate, I even write poetry about her, I haven't shown her my work and I really don't plan on doing so. She completely ignores me, I hear her talk about me behind my back, she laughs at me with her "bestie". Her bestie also doesn't like me because I heard her say I was weird. I would do anything for this girl I love. The reason she hates me, is becasue she knows I like her... What do I do? How can I make her stop hating me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Yosoyintellgente  +, writes (24 September 2011):
Hey I had same problem ( from Iceland don'tknow good English yet) so annoying, girl hated me and I finally snapped, I did. Not even like her then so I was yelling at her, 'why do u hate me?' and we got a sent to the principals office. The girl confessed she liked me. she asked me out and I said yes.and then remixes I liked her too. and we have hit our two year anniversary. moral just ask her out she probably likes you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2009): Maybe she secretly likes you two and she might be "testing" you. This is how it was with one of my girlfriends. Most girls like a guy who has both Nice Guy and Jerk qualities. See, you sound like one of those guys that are TOO nice. Sometimes if you ignore her for a little bit and then talk to her the next day. Some girls also like guys who don't care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): tell it to her face (no joke) it worked with me they will get the hint
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): I am not silly, nor am i a mess. I was simply in a relationship once in which i used the word "love" and now that i am happily married to the man of my dreams, i regret having said that i loved him. I didn't realize the word's true meaning and would rather have saved it to use the first time for the only man i really have loved.
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reader, fuglyone +, writes (22 April 2009):
 Oh yeah and be careful by the word love, it is so out of your control. don't listen to people who say silly things like that, you can totally decide whom you love, or what type of person you'd find the best for you. People who say otherwise are usually a mess anyway.
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reader, Ms. Tearious +, writes (22 April 2009):
Hey there, it's ironic that you posted this question because I'm in the same predicament with a guy...and I would be considered to be playing the role of the girl who "hates" him.
You sound like a sweet and caring guy and you seem to have honest intentions, but speaking from experience maybe it's how you act towards her socially. Maybe you're socialization style isn't at all in sync with hers. If that's the case, she could be feeling really uncomfortable and dislikes it more each time you try and push yourself into her world.
She is most likely not comfortable with you and has run out of patience with trying to communicate with you normally. It's nothing you can help and it by no means that there's nothing "wrong" with you, you're just not in sync with her style or taste to begin with and your efforts to get her to appeal to you may aggrivate her immensely.
Us girls sometimes go overboard when reacting to situations like this, but sooner or later we realize that we acted wrong although we couldn't see any different at the time. Just give her space and try not to barge into her world, you might have to just let her go.
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reader, t-wett +, writes (22 April 2009):
How could you possibly like a girl that treats you that way?? The fact is she is young and naive to the rest of the world (outside of high school). She is taking advantage of being pretty by disrespecting all of the guys that like her that she doesn't find attractive. She is being shallow, disrespectful and extremely rude and a girl like that isn't even worth wasting your time over...no matter how pretty she is. Seriously, don't waste your time on pretty girls that are hideously ugly when it comes to their personality. If there is any advice I can give you to get through high school, that would be it.
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reader, anoms  +, writes (22 April 2009):
 well if neither of them like you, and for no particular reason then you have nothing to loose by asking her or her best friend what the problem is. but if you want to level the playing field why dont you try an win over her bestfriend, its usually a good move, just get talking to her, even if you dont like her all that much it will get them both talking about you on more of a positive note if your a genuine good guy, gudluk.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2009): Be careful with the word "love."
You are blinded by something and i'm not sure what. Maybe she is beautiful or popular, maybe you had a conversation with her that you can't get out of your mind..
But you need to open your eyes. She is not nice to her and niether are her friends, but you are such a gentleman that you are nice to her in return for all the hurt that inflicts on you.
It sounds like you are yourself around her and that is not what she likes. It seems that the only way you will get her to stop hating you is if you stop being yourself, and that is something that you never want to do. Don't change yourself for anyone. One day, you will find a girl who is attracted to you as you are.
This girl is immature and simply mean. Don't get hung up on her. It's hard to make poeple change the way they feel anyway.
It's good that you have not let her get you down on yourself and you still know that you are a good person. Keep it up.
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