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writes:My name is Carleigh. I'm 15 going on 16 in about ten days, and I'm a sophomore. I'm very mature, smart, funny, and honest. I'm a lesbian. I love literature, the English language, art, theatre, Shakespeare, learning, school, food, music, health and fitness, makeup, Pinterest, history, and some science. I want to become an English teacher when I grow up, and I'm very big on being a leader. I will be taking a class next year specifically for people who want to become a teacher, and you must have top of the line grades, a good attitude, and high maturity level to become a part of this class. I am a Girl Scout, and I will soon be earning my Gold Award on teaching children the importance of literacy and writing. I am in the book club, pep club, Spanish club, National Junior Honor Society, Junior Civitan, and Student Council. I have a VERY sarcastic humor, and I'm known for my quick wit and comebacks. I would rather talk to an adult than someone my own age. As friends, and even as a lover. I have five friends that I actually really do like, mainly because they accept me and agree with me on most if not everything. There are 6 teachers at my school I have befriended, and two of which I would accept as my lover. All are female. I would rather talk to an adult because they're easier to talk to. They won't judge you or laugh at you, and I can carry a conversation with someone who actually possesses some form of intellect and maturity. I have something in common with all of these teachers, and we get along very well. We talk about school and our lives, and they seem to have an actual interest in what I'm saying. Kids my age care about friends, drinking, drugs, parties, boyfriends, sex, YOLO, and SWAG. Kids my age are stupid, they make stupid decisions, and then they judge you when you're actually worth something and you have a future? Nope, I don't play that game. The people I sit with at my lunch table always talk about boys and what they're doing this weekend. All they care about is being social, and I will literally get up in the middle of their conversation, leave the lunch table, and go talk to one of my teacher-friends. I couldn'tcare less about who broke up/hooked up. I couldn't care leas about the next rave. This one girl at the table always says something ignorant, and I make a sarcastic comment. Needless to say, she doesn't understand it. People my age mistake my confidance for cockiness and rudeness, but really I just don't have time to sit in a corner and cry about who I am. I love myself, and I am happy with the person I am. After school, I won't go outside and wait for my ride like other kids, I go and visit one of my teacher-friends. I avoid social situations at all costs.I am VERY different than kids my age, and that makes it difficult for me to make friends with people my age and even have a girlfriend. I have very mature interests, and it's hard to find that in someone my age. I have high standards and expectations for a lover, and also with friends.I say all of that because, I really want to make new friends, but I don't really know how. I get nervous in social situations. I still want to keep my teacher-friends, but I want to have friends my age on the side. It's the summer time, and I want to get out more.How can I make friends, even find a girlfriend, my age that meets my expectations and I can have fun with?
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reader, Bellgrove  +, writes (28 June 2013):
You sound like a great person, and I can empathise with you. When I was 15, I hated other 15 year olds. Most teenagers are total bores and don't know anything. However, that kind of cynical attitude didn't make me any friends.You clearly have a wealth of interests, and you have a good chance of making lots of friends by pursuing them. Maybe you could join a book club? Or start on at school?It's quite easy to meet people, if only you can work up the confidence.I think it's possible you alienate people your age by flaunting your superiority. Maybe they're boring, shallow people, but you could probably have a good influence on them if you tried. It was said of Oscar Wilde that some people are so clever they make you feel tiny, but Oscar was so clever he made you feel brilliant. Or something like that.It's quite easy to make people feel good about themselves if you put your mind to it, and if you do, everyone will like you - it's a direct route to making friends. It's also a good way to get the best out of people; you'll see a different side to them and they'll be more open to talking about things that interest you, and you might even inspire them to become better people.Did you notice how I started my answer? Did that make you think that I'm a nice person who you want to listen to? Would you have felt the same way if I began by saying you were rude and judgemental? That sort of trick works wonders in real life, and if you're nice to people you're good attributes are more likely to rub off on them.If you haven't already read it, I can thoroughly recommend "How To Win Friends and Influence People" by Dale Carnegie. It's the most life changing book I've ever read, and I think it would do you a bit of good too. If you read it and put it's manifold pearls of wisdom into practice you'll start finding people a lot easier to deal with (Hell, you'll even LIKE them) and your social life will become much more rewarding. As for finding a girlfriend, you're sure to find one once you get good at making friends.
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