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writes:My bf of 2 years has grown distant from me. He used to be wonderful and loving. Recently he has admitted to me that it is because he is depressed and feels like worthless crap because of the poor financial decisions he has made and how he is going nowhere in his life. It doesn't help that I have gotten frustrated and mad and told him he was making stupid decisions and by the time he achieved anything in life I would be long gone.I really hate seeing him sad. I want him to feel good about himself and make a plan for himself and live the life he wants. What can I say or do for him to make him less depressed about himself?
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (9 January 2012):
 Help him get into therapy. That's really all you can do. And stop telling him he is stupid, be supportive instead. But be firm, you're not his therapist, so you shouldn't act like one either, that'll just drain you. Help him get help instead.
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reader, bardia  +, writes (9 January 2012):
 My BF was the same way. Has some grand ideas of what he wants to do in life, but has no motivation to get there. Sometimes the harsh truth is what's needed--a swift kick in the @$$ to get him going. But if there is also an underlying depression (for whatever reason), that needs to be addressed first. Get him to seek counseling. It sounds flaky (especially to guys sometimes), but just talking with someone who is trained to give perspective on life situations is immensely helpful. If he can't get past the depression, he will continue to lack motivation. Good luck...
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