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writes:How can I hold onto a friendship? My friend (a married female) has moved away and I am desperate to keep in touch, we have exchanged e-mails and spoken a couple of times in the last 6 months but mostly my e-mails and texts go unanswered and then suddenly, out the blue, one will be answered. (The 'phone calls came out the blue) I will keep sending her e-mails, altho' I am trying hard not to flood her with them as she has both a job, two children and a husband to look after and I know she is a very busy person. Is there any way I can tell her how important her friendship is to me? I don't want to put pressure on her, she has enough to bother about. Do I just keep sending her e-mails (say once a week) with just general topics (that I know interest us both) or do I have try and accept that I'm going to lose this friendship as time passes?
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reader, oldbiker +, writes (6 April 2008):
oldbiker is verified as being by the original poster of the question Dear oldersister,
I understand the direction you're coming from and what you're saying, it would take too long to write a detailed answer but simply there is nothing deeper than friendship between us, we are both married, we both helped each other with problems and our friendship is no secret to our partners. It does bring me to a point, friendship between two members of the same sex is OK but there seems to be a view that between two members of the opposite sex, it must be leading somewhere and if it's two married individuals then that is taboo because the other partners are not as closely involved. I'd be interested on views on that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 April 2008): Wanting to keep the friendship is a good thing. I'm sure she wants to keep the friendship too. As long as you both know its only friendship! lol Tell her how good a friend she is and you really do like talking to her and just tell her how imprtant she is to you .... but don't make her think you like her or somthing ya know .... just say it in a friendly way :)
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