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writes:I have a friend who I believe to be bulimic.I first noticed it when we started University, because the bathroom is directly between both of our bedrooms and I often heard her. I also heard her while she 'was showering,' a few times.I was so worried about her, I didn't really know what to do. So I confronted her about it, in a really nice way so as not to make her uncomfortable or feel bad. I said that I knew what she was doing, and that if she wanted me to I would be there to help her and go with her to get help. I also told her it would stay between us two.After that chat, we became closer and I hadn't noticed her doing it anymore.. but I knew either she had stopped or had become better at hiding it.Then I became more observant. I noticed that she binge eats and then goes to the toilet when we are watching a movie so the sound drowns it out. And she has also started using the other bathroom to do it at night so I won't hear her. I know she is still doing it because the smell is so strong and it is very messy.How do I help her now? Can I help her?I'm really worried.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThankyou so much for your response. It's nice to hear that you have over come this, which I hope for my friend.
I think I will try finding out information and then using this to help her through. She is beautiful and I always tell her this; obviously she has yet to believe it.
Hopefully she will get better :)
Again, thanks!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 February 2011): I was bulimic at your age. I think what you have done so far is wonderful. You sound like a true friend. One of my friends found out I was bulimic and told my mother, I did not think that was the right thing to do then, and I still don't 22 years later. I think if you remind her you are there for her and let her know you don't judge her in any way and you suspect she may be still making herself sick, then she will feel supported. Find information about the dangers and health effects of binge eating and purging and let her know this information. Like teeth decaying and acid reflux. This information helped to frighten me into getting better. You need to convince your friend to get professional help, and she needs to go for the help herself. Till she wants to get better, she will keep hiding it. Bulimia can be associated with feelings of inadequacy and low self esteem. Try building your friend up, by telling her how beautiful she is, if she has a great figure, let her know this. Give her lots of positive affirmations.... She is lucky to have a good friend like you.
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