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writes:I'm ashamed to ask this, because I realize that to most people, this is gonna sound really strange. It bothers me to be called "Ms." or "Miss" so and so (surname) as opposed to being called "Dr." or some similar honorific. It really bothers me not to have an honorific of some sort and being called plain old "Ms." or "Mrs." (I'm not married) upsets me a lot. It makes me feel slapped. I hate being a Ms. and not having an honorific or something. I know most people won't understand but it bothers the hell out of me.I had always dreamed of becoming a veterinarian, when I was a kid. I looked forward to being called Dr. (surname), of course the main reason is that I love animals more than almost anything else. Stupidly, I didn't pursue that. Now I'm in a job I hate, and I regret it so much. I wish and wish that I could have become a vet, but now I'm scared that it's too late. I don't wanna be a tech or something because I would hate that. I've been very depressed lately because that was my dream and now it can never come true. I had the potential to do it but I've graduated from college years ago and I don't think my grades are high enough to get in... and I'm too old. But I HATE being called Ms. because it reminds me that my dream of being a vet didn't come true.How can I have some sort of honorific, like Dr.? How do I deal with the fact that I'll never be happy because it's too late to pursue the right career?
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reader, TasteofIndia +, writes (21 March 2010):
 Hey sweet thing,
Hey - I've seen your age, and you're certainly not too old to go back to school. Maybe your grades won't get you into Harvard or Cornell, but there are tons of online schools that you can earn a Masters and PHD through. Don't say that your dream can "never come true" - it will only end up that way if you let it. You're still young (even if you feel old. Hey, if you're pushing 30, you've still got at least a good 50 years in front of you) and CAN be aggressive enough to make your future look the way you want to.
You'll be most satisfied if you earn the title. You don't want people to call you Dr. Smith if you know darn well you're not a doctor. I have a feeling that it will just hurt you more.
Start volunteering at the ASPCA, maybe put your applications at a few veterinarians and see if you can be at the front desk. You have to start somewhere sister, and don't waste time! It can happen for you.
Good luck, sweetness!
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2010): You miss (just joking) have to earn the title just like everyone else in this world called Dr. because there are no free passes in life. If it's too late to pursue that dream or you aren't able to, then you'll have to find another dream. Good luck!
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