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writes:I have just been wondering about breaking up and how both partners feels toward it I broke up with my friend a month ago and I still feel pain in my heart until the moment We were happy and he decide to break up ,I accepted that he doesn’t want me but why , whylast night I heard from his friend that he saidThat’s was my decision and I am happy with that (proudly)Is he happy ? was I a bad thing in his life , I wasn’tHe is happy because he broke up with me , while I am notI started to delete his text messages from my mobileHehe , I read some of them(Come and sleep between my Arms! the bed is empty with out you ,, you took my heartI never loved someone the way I love you, I just found you and you brought me to the life ) Was he lying ? or series , I believed him and I believed that he loved meBut why he broke up with meHonestly I didn’t anything for him , he is the one that he changed , his face not the face , his smile not the smileHe is the one who became another person , why ? and I was the sameDid he love me ? if so , how he broke up with me ? and whyAnd why he is happy while I am sadStrange feelingsI want get over this break up and I cantAnd its almost one month and I feel that there is knife cutting my heart and he is happyJust unfair ,,How I could get over the break up , heal my self , my life my heart How to get him out of my mind I feel the pain killing me slowly
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 September 2009): You have to move on. Asking questions or seeking out questions from him wont do it. It is what it is. It hurts i know. Sometimes you come across people in life that are total users, they seem to just use and discard people. But here's the good news, Karma is a bitch. They do and they always will get what's coming to them.
You have to heal,go through the healing process alone. The crying, the ache even the questions and resentment so you come out the other side happy and more prepared. Users never come out of it alright. They can't do anything spiritually indepandantly, they always have to find someone to tag along with, therefore they always have to change their faces, become different people to addapt, and ultimately they suffer for it.
Think about it. Your free now. No more of his drama, issues, having to guess or analyse what everything he does means. This time appart will be a testament of your strength. Your courage, your independance.
Users never win. They only think they do. When they do get their Karma, it hurts them ten times more than it'll ever hurt us. Because they caused so much pain, they know where their pain comes from.
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reader, Leen +, writes (31 August 2009):
Leen is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks everybody
Your answers make me happier
brought a smile into my face
I am not going to talk with him anymore, or even think about him as something because its over
Let him fly in the happiness, maybe he would reach the skies and he would find another ex and added to his records , full of ex`s , I was ex number 6
But he has to make sure ,, that I deducted 2 years from my life for him and i didnt gain anything only sadness
and he terminated in one word , I am not sad or depressed as I am disappointed
but his word
Every deal in this life cant be terminated without simple conditions or consequence or even fines , for instant , company or job or payment , if you fired from work the company will pay you extra money
Whereas only few things which are more appreciated to the people like relationships or friendship just finished like this . and you have to move like you weren’t there before , like you didn’t add, offer, create , build or present anything,And just one person word destroyed everything
and you must leave empty hands with sad hearts
But this life is justice , one it takes something it give you better
And it will punish who punished you
Thanks
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reader, jadabryant21  +, writes (30 August 2009):
Okay Hun... this is what u must do... I have been there done that... This guy is a jerk.. get over him... If he looks for you, no matter how much he begs dont even consider taking him back. I know that it hurts like hell. I know. I'm going through it right now! I have broken up with my boyfriend for 3 years for the last time... he was always happy when he didnt need me... as soon as he ran out of money, was horny, or bored.. he would crawl back to me. Obviously if someone doesnt apreciate you or falls out of love with you they are not worth your time and your tears... Remember, for every broken heart you get, the closer you are to your true love.
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reader, MissesConfused +, writes (30 August 2009):
You should publish this as a poem! It's well-written!Anyway, it's easy to tell you to just move on with your life, but it sounds like you were seriously in love with this guy. In time, your heart will heal, though and you'll find someone who's great for you. You deleted his texts. That's a good start for beginning your path to closure. What you need to do is ask this guy all those questions in your head, and he HAS to answer.
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (30 August 2009):
Right, you clearly need to talk to him.
Call him up and say that you accept his decision and you are glad he's happy but you are still unclear to what went wrong and would like a friendly chat just to talk things through.
Make it clear you are not going to beg for him back or anything, you just want to move on and be happy again and think this would help.
Ask him to just do this as your friend so you can move on.
Good Luck!! xx
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