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*skRosie
writes:Recently I passed my driving test, something which I am really, really proud of. I didn't tell my parents or anyone else that I was taking it, and when I passed, I told them. But, they just said to me that I should have been open and honest with them, despite the fact that my twin brother and my older sister, both told everyone and failed at least once (I passed first time!)Anyway, since then they have been really off with me, and I've apologised, and tried explaining to them why I didn't tell them. They've insured me on my sisters car, which was nice of them, but now they barely let me drive it. Everytime I ask them, they look at each other with a worried expression and say no. I do understand that I'm inexperienced, but surely the best way to get me to gain experience is to drive on my own? Anyway, they all treat me like I'm really stupid, and it is doing my head in. They let my brother drive whenever he wants, and my sister, and it is annoying me, especially as I offered to pay my share of the insurance money, when I passed.Everything I do I get snapped at, and I hate it. I can't even make a joke without them shouting at me or having a go at me. It's doing my head in! I feel like they don't love me as much as the other two, and bearing in mind what my head is like at the moment, I don't like this feeling at all.I really wish that they would accept me and treat me like the other two. How can I get them to do this? It makes me feel so unwanted and I hate feeling like this!
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reader, Lucky786 +, writes (11 April 2012):
 Firstly congratulations on passing your test first time. Secondly how is your relationship with your sister? Is there any way she could let you take her car or maybe get you to drive her places and go pick her up so you can gain some real experience? She could even sit in with you a few times and see how you get on.
When I passed my test no-one would let me drive at all even though I was insured on my mum's car it all changed when I bought my own. I guess that wouldn't be an option given that insurance is so expensive for young drivers.
With regard to your parents, I would try and speak to them about how you feel you are treated. Try not to get angry but stay calm and get your point across.
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 April 2012): Sit your parents down & talk to them.
Explain that you feel that they have been off with you & are treating you differently from your siblings.
Explain the reasons why you never told them about your driving test.
Perhaps they suspect you of lying about passing.
(Believe me I had a friend who said he had past & his whole family believed him,his mum even bought him a car only to find out he had failed a few months later & had been lying about passing.)
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