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anonymous
writes:My husband used to do anal, and I loved it! Now he thinks too hard about it and it grosses him out. I am bummed because it feels SOOOOO good. And I thought it feels good to men too. That's been my experience anyways. I've always known it to be very good for men too.Anyways, it sounds gross, but he says that sometimes feces come out or whatever. Not alot, just teeny bit or something. I don't know, I haven't seen.I've never had complaints in my past and this is the first time I have to practically beg my husband to do it, and even then I can tell he goes soft and then we don't have any sort of sex at all.That leaves me frustrated and kind of angry.Please help. What can I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): Well, I guess he could give you an enema or you could take a laxative to flush out your system. Then there's always a good old-fashioned condom.
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reader, Collaroy  +, writes (12 August 2008):
 Hi,
oh my I'm sure a lot of guys will be reading this thinking why cant i be married to you!.... But I have to admit that I am not a fan of anal at all. Though most guys do like it.. the reasons given usually is because it is a tighter fit, but for those who don't care, the front bottom is the place to be!
So maybe your husband just prefers to go the front way.. i know i do.
If you feel the need perhaps you can use a toy instead while making love to your husband.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 August 2008): You can do an enema to clean out before hand. This is not something you should do often, the enema and the anal. Have you done any research on the internet about the sphincter muscle and what happens to it from abusing it through frequent anal intercourse? Do you have any friends in the gay community that could fill you in? It's not pretty and you are going to thank your husband when you are old for saving you from yourself!
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reader, RitzaD. +, writes (12 August 2008):
 I have read a lot about anal sex, and some people share their techniques. I've read that before u encounter anal sex, to take a laxative to clean out, and then take a shower and maybe it will be a cleaner process. Since ur not back there u don't know what going on.
But talk to ur husband about what's really bothering him about it, what is grossing him out, and why isn't it such a turn on to him anymore.
Hope this is helpful, and good luck.
XoXo
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