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writes:I'm still in love with my ex. She broke up with me almost a year ago. We were together for just under six months, although we've been friends for much longer. I don't see her very often - it was a long distance relationship - but we still keep in touch.I think I should be over her by now... it's been so long since we were together. But I still miss her as much as I always have. A few months ago I even asked her how she felt about me and how she'd feel about giving our relationship another chance. She said she doesn't think of me in that way any more, and that it will never happen. I do want to move on, and I want to find someone new. But I haven't met anyone I'm interested in since we broke up. And I think that if I do ever find someone else, it would be unfair to start something, seeing as I still have feelings for my ex.I haven't really got a question to ask... I'd like to ask "will I ever get over her", but that's not really a question anyone can answer. I guess I'd just like to hear some advice from anyone who's been in a similar situation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 May 2007): I went through exactly the same thing at about the same age. She was a few months older than me, my first girlfriend (I started dating late), and regrettably my last girlfriend. If you haven't got much experience with dating under your belt, you're likely to obsess over your first. This is especially true if she had a lot more experience with relationships than you did. For her, it was probably just more of a fling. For you, you likely poured your heart into it.I'm going to tell you something about what I remember. It turned out that I was more in love with the idea of being in love than I had actually been in love with her. You'll get over her, and you'll always carry around how you felt about her for the rest of your life, but you will get over her. Don't think that just because you remember who she was and how you once felt that you must still be in love with her. You really aren't... All you're doing is remembering and obsessing on a memory.And here's the dirty little secret... If you thought that was love, wait until you discover true love with someone who really does love you back. That will knock your socks off.
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 May 2007): you can never get over someone you love. you only learn to live without them... be busy and have fun with friends that way you won't be thinking about her alot.. Often people do the rebound thing cos they miss the afflection they use 2 get and need someone 2 remind them how beautiful they are.. thats only gud for the short term not long term.. just try not to date someone else while you still have strong feelings cos you don't want to hurt your partner with it... you'll be fine just have a best friend whom you can turn 2 when you need to be heard tc darl
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reader, Captain8889  +, writes (3 May 2007):
YES YES YESI promise you will get over her. I felt the same way about past relationships and i thought i would never survive, but you will. You have to grieve for a period of time and then you must move on. I think your grieving period is over and you have to start picking up the peices. There is some wonderful woman out there waiting for you to find her, I promise you that!!!! Time heals ALL pain, it is true!
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