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writes:I miss my ex boyfriend. I know this is a right of passage etc, but it doesn't make it any better.We were together for 6 months in a long distance relationship and were friends before we went out. It's been 3 months since we broke up and at the moment I'm missing him a lot. I want to get back in touch with him (maybe not now, but I want a plan of action so as to make me feel better) but not sure how to go about it. I don't want to get back in touch and him think I'm trying to him back into a relationship. I want to be friends as we shared similar interests etc.How can I go about doing this without scaring him off!?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 March 2012): There are three facts about the break up:
1-Breakups are hard. But there is a chance to get back together if you are willing to work with your partner. You have to
communicate with each other.
2-People often realize how much they miss each other after a breakup. Absence can make the heart grow fonder.
3-You improve you chances of getting back together, if you improve yourself and work on communicating your needs with each
other.
Just stick to these three facts and your effort to get your ex back will pay off.
http://bit.ly/Make_Him_Want_You_Back
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2012): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questiondear so_very_confused.
yeah - it posted twice by accident.
No we met at university and met in real-life quite a few times. Thanks for your advice!
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (6 March 2012):
 Is this your question: http://www.dearcupid.org/question/i-want-to-have-my-ex-as-a.html
He’s long distance right? So it was never REALLY day to day living. Have you ever met him IRL? Or is this whole relationship virtual?
What are you missing about the relationship? Being friends with ex partners rarely works out well…
I think you really need to let it go… if I’m right this is the third time you’ve asked for help with this …
YOu want to get in touch with him to make yourself feel better but he probably doesn't want to have contact with you and if you cared about him at all you would respect that.
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reader, Deagan +, writes (6 March 2012):
 I've got bad news for you. No matter how you approach this, he is going to think you are interested in a relationship with him when all you want to be is friends. You are going to lead him on.
You're going scare, confuse and upset him.
Imagine what it will do to his ego. All of a sudden his ex girlfriend wants to be friends. He's going to think, "what, am I not good enough to be a boyfriend? She just wants to be...friends?"
That isn't fair to him. Let it go. He's moved on. Guys aren't able to just be friends easily with their ex girlfriends. You are now labeled the ex girlfriend, and as this point, you can't be labeled as a friend.
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