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writes:Ive been with my bf for over 3 months now and were still having problems with his ex. weve both spoke to her to tell her to back off, we were nice about it at first , because i could understand her being upset, but its getting ridiculous now , shes threatening to hit me and calling me vile names. im quite a placid person and dont think i deserve this grief. our relationship began fairly, hed broke up with her, then we started a relationship, yet shes having a go, saying hes cheated on her, but thats not true. she constantly rings at all times of the day, and sends sms all the time. weve ignored most of it, but like i said , we have spoken to her because she wouldnt stop. he wont let me message her to tell her iv had enough, and would like the police involved now, this has gone on too long. he says me talking to her again might make the situation worse, yet he doesnt want to do anything else and seems to think she'll stop eventually, but i dont know how much more i can take of this, i cant stand the hassle shes giving us! can someone please give me some good advice on how to stop this over emotional evil bunny boiler making me and my bf unhappy and stressed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): this happened to me before ..you have to completely ignore her: block her .. don't answer her .. AT ALLif she wants to hit you .. meet up with her but have a lot of ppl with you .. she won't wanna hit you anymore .. but with me .. this was easily solved by her getting another boyfriend . she needs a new boyfriend . She'll stop eventually
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2009): I went through this too . First block her on Aim or Myspace and don't read her messages don't talk to her just completely ignore her . What she needs is a new boyfriend .if she wants to hit you. tell her to meet you sumwhere and have a lot of ppl with you. she won't do anything
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (2 February 2009):
Tell him that he has to sort her out and get rid of her by the end of this week or you are going to the police.
You can't just ignore her and hope she'll go away if she has threatened violence. Keep a diary of everything she does. Keep texts and everything else she sends.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, Mels  +, writes (2 February 2009):
It is not just your b/f problem cause she is actually saying she will hit you! You are the one receiving a physical threat by this girl. Be careful, some ppl only do stuff like that as a verbal threat, others proceed nwith the threats and usually you can tell which case it is only when it is too late.
I would take this seriously and go to the police. What if she had a knife or something?
Pls be careful, she is breaking the law by saying she will hit you and by harassing you, don't leave this be, go to the police and make sure they talk to her and explain her she is breaking the law and hopefully she will realize she has gone too far. If not, you need to take further action and get ba restricted order, I really would not take this lightly and be aware that you going to the police could enrage her even more against you, so I would make sure not be alone for a while.
Good luck
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reader, Auntie Stoned  +, writes (2 February 2009):
It is your bf's problem. Tell him to do something to stop that nuisance or you will give him the marching order. It might hurt you but save you the long term misery.
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