A
male
age
30-35,
*ngel of Now
writes:I'm having problems with my girlfriend not being a virgin while I am. I've read the past is the past stuff. I know it's me she wants to be with forever and that it's best to get over people she's been with in the past and it's starting to help.. but she still friends with past lover(s) and they are still part of her life, I don't know what to think of this, I don't like it. Help please!
View related questions:
her past Reply to this Question
Share |
Fancy yourself as an agony aunt? Add your answer to this question! A
male
reader, Angel of Now +, writes (29 April 2008):
Angel of Now is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell so far things have gotten better, I'm not as hurt about what she did and we haven't fought about this in the last month, which is a long time at the rate we were going at. Thaks for the help
A
male
reader, Angel of Now +, writes (29 April 2008):
Angel of Now is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell so far things have gotten better, I'm not as hurt about what she did and we haven't fought about this in the last month, which is a long time at the rate we were going at. Thaks for the help
...............................
A
reader, anonymous, writes (3 April 2008): If she loves you and doesn't want to be with anyone else again then you have nothing to worry about! The fact that it's you who she's chosen should be comforting to you and she chose you for a reason. Maybe these past lovers didn't mean anything to her compared to you! Why don't you try asking her how she feels and have a talk with her about how you feel?Keep us posted, xx Hope xx
...............................
A
male
reader, Yos  +, writes (3 April 2008):
 You're probably feeling that way because you're worried that you won't 'measure up' (literally and metaphorically) to her past lovers. A way to get past this is to be the best boyfriend to her that you can be. If you do that, you'll be much better than those previous guys. Know that right now she's focussed on you primarily. If there is any flirting etc going on with her past lovers then that's not ok. You are within your rights to ask her (nicely) not to do that. If possible then she should not talk to them at all, but that might be impossible if they share classes or live near each other.
In the mean time, the best thing you can do is focus on being a good boyfriend, and try not to think about the past. It's hard to do, but when you feel yourself getting upset, try to distract yourself with something that diverts your attention. Something you find very interesting, it doesn't really matter what. If you keep doing this, you'll get better at being able not to think about her past.
There are many people who come on this site with this issue, you are not alone. Have a look through the archives here.
...............................
|
