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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi, im 14 , i'm not popular but i'm still not a geek or anything. i think im pretty looking but i havnt had a boyfriend in a year and it's really starting to get to me. i think it's because i'm not popular and none of the boys notice me and to be honest i havnt gt many friends near me only people who i don't know so i cant go out and meet new guys.how can i get boys to notice me ? (we have to wear school uniform btw) plzz help xxxxxxxxxx
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reader, AskEve +, writes (2 February 2007):
 Just be yourself, try and look your best and don't come across too loud or pushy. Be bubbly and friendly and let your personality attract them. Smile too, there's nothing more attractive than to see a girl smile. You are still very young and have plenty of time in the years to come to date guys. It WILL happen when the time is right so don't worry about it.
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reader, sonnensc  +, writes (2 February 2007):
Again, I'm a guy. I'm several years older than you. What works for me is to do my own thing and naturally make friends with people with similar interests. Also, is there anyone you really admire? It's okay to show that admiration, and it's a great way to make friends.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2007): well i was the same back at ur age!
dont worry!
im 18 now and beleave me u wil start 2 get noticed! your still young you will change and grow up alot hun x
just be confident!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 February 2007): OMG! I have exactly the same problem. We're the same age too!
Wierd.
I used to be really bothered about this but I think i've come to accept it. I think some people are popular during school because of how they look, and purely that. These girls that do get boyfriends, well in my school anyway, are bitches to be frank, and wear lots of make-up and go out and get drunk every night.
I know this is probably going to sound a bit odd, but I just take a step back, you will only be in that school for another three years maximum, in which looks and popularity mean everything. My friend, who is 19, that it changes as you move up through education, or life depending on which option you choose.
She went to college and said that the boys had changed a lot since leaving secondary school and were more interested in girls that were nice, funny and clever. Looks and popularity didn't seem to be as much of an issue. She recently went to university, and she says it matters even less then. I think everyone has just grown up, and their hormones have settled down and their bodies kind of understand what's important in a partner.
So, I think you should stop worrying about boys noticing you, and just get on with life. Work hard at school, and have a laugh with your friends.
You mentioned that you didn't have many, perhaps now is a time for you to stop wanting to be popular and noticed, and be recognised by people who love you for being you, rather than how much make-up you wear, or whether you damage your liver everynight.
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