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female
age
30-35,
anonymous
writes:I have been with my boyfriend who studies in different city for over 7 months now. We have a very good relationship, still in a honeymoon stage. It's full of love and fun, we hardly argue.I feel very happy with him when we talk during the day at least for an hour, I can do a day or two without him contacting me much, but after a while I get really sad, so sad that I think about breaking up with him.Now he doesn't have any internet, we exchange 2 or 3 text messages in the morning and then we talk on a phone for about 10 minutes a day and that's all. It's been a whole week like that, I am seeing him in 3 days for a weekend.May I tell him not to contact me at all until we see each other? If you are wondering why, I keep checking my phone if he texted or called and no contact would make me concentrate on my stuff and enjoy my nights out. However, I don't want to make him feel like I want to break up with him. How can I gently ask for that?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): Thanks you guys!
It's not like he is bothering me when he contacts me, it's that I want to talk to him so badly that I am literally hypnotising the phone.
I didn't tell him anything becuase Valentine's is coming up and just hide the phone from myself.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 February 2011): just tell him everything you have siad here, i dont understand why people are just honest and be straight foward, like you are being here. That is the best way, do not say anyhting else or he might think that you dont want to talk to him. Just copy paste everything you have wrote here to him, he will understand, dont wory my gf did it to me because i am also in LDR and i understand the situation. thanks
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (10 February 2011):
 Well i think the best thing to do is not to ban contact but to come to an agreement that when you are on nights out he doesnt text you, just explain to him that you love talking to him but when you are out with your friends you just want to have fun with them. Also when you are busy doing other stuff put your phone away somewere that you cant see it.
Maybe come to an arangement of a time that suits you both in the day where you are free to give each other your full attention. But i feel if you ask him not to contact you for a while he is going to feel like you dont want to talk to him and it may cause a drift in the relationship, therefore it is better to compromise..goodluck.
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