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writes:Im feeling kinda lonely and depressed lately. The thing is i'm having trouble home, they are some problems going on with my parents to my older brother. So i go to school and every single one of my friends have a boyfriend, i'm the only one who doesnt, at the beginning it wasnt a problem for me, but now i am feeling kinda left out and lonely. I have no candidates and i'm not ugly nor fat. People tell me i'm cute and have a great personality.. so whats wrong with me? Then what i am trying to do is to focus my mind on other matters i practice ballet and read a lot, but still i feel empty, i need love, affection, and i need things in my house to go well. someone can give me tips on how to feel better? or how to get a good boyfriend or someone to feel interested in me?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 November 2008): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you very much for your advise, I appreciate it.
Right now my best friends are supporting me a lot, and I'm starting to feel a little better. Still i have the problem with the boyfriend but yeah you're right eventually i'll have a relationship, so right now i'll enjoy my single time.
I read a lot because i want to become a writer but I'm not introvert nor shy. I can still have a good time with my friends. Thanks for everything Jack & Butterflyfly.
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reader, Butterflyfly  +, writes (29 November 2008):
 Oh I'm sorry you feel like this, it seems that the problems at home really affect you and no wonder you feel this doom and gloom.
Do you have good friends? Do you keep in touch with your colleagues from school/ballet classes?
You could try to develop better/deeper relationships with your friends/colleagues/ other people.We all make this mistake at some point.. feeling lonely when we are surrounded by people and not taking advantage of this opportunity to make some friends...
I am assuming, because you said you read a lot, that you have an introvert personality, maybe it would be good to try and stick your neck out there and be a bit silly/play a little/ try to have a laugh?
It may seem like a huge effort but you will see, in no time other people(not just boys), will be attracted to you and will want to know you/spend time with you. This can be a good opportunity for you to build yourself,and the moment you succeed in getting some joy all by yourself, you will know that you are a much stornger person and better equipped to deal with what life may throw at you int he future!
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reader, Jack_McVeigh  +, writes (29 November 2008):
 Ok darling don't worry. Just because you dont have a love in your life at the moment a) doesn't mean that you never will and b) doesn't mean that you have to be feeling down and depressed. Judging by the tone of your messege you sound like a charasmatic, sensitive girl in which guys would die for. Yeah your mates have bf's but I mean they may have found thier love at this age, you may find yours in a years time, two years time or even tomorrow. I mean you can't put a timer or date on love. It just sort of happens.If things aren't right at home all you can do is enjoy the time you have with your mates. I mean when things are heavy at home then talk to your friends. Tell them about it. If you don't tell them then how can they be there for you like friends should be and as for finding that love, well just don't worry about it. You sound like an amazing girl and you're just waiting to meet the right guy. I believe that there is someone out there for for everyone. All you can do is keep your head up, eyes open and that special person will find you.. Take care and all the bestJPMcVeighx
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