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writes:My Boyfriend Died In A Car Accident Back In September And Im Finding It Really Hard To Cope.. I Love Him So Much, I Turned To Alcohol Iv Only Just Turned 16, I Took Comfort From My Boyfriends Best Friend.. Only I Think I Put More Preasure On Him Because He's Turned To Drugs. Hardcore Stuff Like Heroin. And I Dont Know How To Help Him. Hes Promised Me He Will Stop When He Feels He Can Do It. But The Come Down Makes Him Do It Again Just To Get Rid Of The Come Down Feeling. I Feel Like Im Letting My Boyfriend Down Not Being Able To Help His Best Friend.. I cant Lose Another Person I Love. Because I Just Wont Be Able To Continue In Life.Im Already Struggling To Keep These Thoughts Away And My Friend Was Helping Me. I Feel Like Its My Fault He's Turned To Drugs As He Has Been Trying To Help Me Through It As well As Himself :( I Dont Know What To Do How Can I Help Him Come Of The Drugs.. And How Can I Deal With The Loss..
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): That is such a terrible thing to have to deal with at any age, so i cannot say sorry enough. I think you and your friend definately need some professional help, you both cannot do this alone. Firstly you need to go along to your doctors and explain to him. Secondly, get your friend to go and have a word with the doctor and i am sure they will be able to help him, if he wants help. But you need help to get strong before you are capable of helping others. I wish you well, and sorry that you have had to go through so much pain at such a young age. Hugs sent to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 February 2008): First off I am very sorry for your loss.....please stop doing drugs and I am going to say something else to you, absolutely it is not your fault that this friend of yours has turned to drugs, he did not do it because of pressure, he did it and continues to do it because he has a problem with addiction, and now so do you......you need to get into some sort of treatment program, we call it rehab in the states....you need to do this for yourself, you would be letting your dead boyfriend down by killing yourself with drugs, you would be dishonoring him by continuing associating with people who do drugs no matter if they are your so called friends, you can't stop yourself while being around users.....remember how when you fly on a plane they always tell you if you are a parent flying with a child and the plane loses oxygen, to put the oxygen mask first on yourself and THEN on your child? Well in order to help anyone else in life you FIRST have to help yourself, otherwise you are either dead or are not strong enough to really help them....put the oxygen mask on yourself first get help, stay away and leave this other drug addicted person to their own devices, then if you are strong and drug free, you can go and be able to talk to him about how you helped yourself and inspire him to do the same work on himself....everyone makes their OWN choices in life regardless of who they may want to point the finger at......I hope you will get help soon before it is too late for you...god, bless.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (23 February 2008):
 HiThats a hell of a lot to deal with at your age.Your friend has turned to drugs the same way you turned to alcohol, because he lost his friend, not because of you. Having you will of eased it a little for him if anything.But getting him off them, thats something you cant do alone. He needs to have more downs and hit rock bottom before he can get up from this.My brother was hooked on coke, i know, thats rare, but he was. And he said he had to have enough bad come downs before he realised it wasnt worth it.Your friend needs to be put in touch with talktofrank.com or uk national drugs helpline.You might benefit from some bereavment counselling, try looking at... http://www.hospicenet.org/html/teenager.htmlYou cant do this alone.Good luck.C xxxxx
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