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writes:After a six year relationship my boyfriend and i have decided to break up. I feel i commited more than he did, i always went to him, to see his family and friends, so now i feel a big space in my life. Im realising how lonley im begining to feel at times. I think i can be a strong person and i know i can get through this bad patch, but it will take time. I dont really have any of my own friends, and live with my family but we are not very close, so i wouldnt talk to them about everything. I know i need to keep busy. Monday to Friday i have a busy job which i enjoy and i may possibly have the chance of a promotion over the next 2yrs which is great. but at weekends i really dont know what to do with myself, i have some hobbies and things i can do at home, but what i really want is to get out there and make some friends again. but this means joining a gym or group which il have to go to alone. i need to build my confidence in meeting new people, how can i begin to do this?
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (17 April 2010):
 Join a group whose main purpose is to realize a project and so the main focus is on realizing the project more than socializing with the group members or making a good impression or making new friends (that will come too in time, but naturally and without pressure )
Like- a drama class or amateur theathre group who's putting on a play. Or a volunteer organization that's raising money or organizing some specific event. or.... the possibilities are countless. It just needs to be something that you are curious or excited about. So you can concentrate more on the activity and on having fun ,learning new stuff, etc. than on "Omygod, I MUST get a social life ". Best of luck
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