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writes:hy!! 7months ago i asked for help to break up with my boyfriend. well every1 asked me to tell him the truth and breakup with him nicely. . here i go I'm still stuck him. . i tld him that i dnt love him nd i even cheated on him with ex bf. and he still wants to be with me. ns he z making me so annoyed abt him. he threats me to harm himself if i break with him and i ever talk t my ex before.but i really want to talk to him.i love my ex and we both want to get back together.please help me to break up with my bf.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 May 2013): The next time he does this. Call the suicide hotline and hand him the phone. Get your s**t and leave. They already explained earlier what type of behavior this is, so play right along with him. You're not responsible for anybody's else's behavior but your own. I honestly think that you need time to heal from this dysfunctional relationship. I really believe that the only reason you're reaching out to your ex is because he may not be as coo coo for cocoa puffs as your current boyfriend. Jumping from one relationship to another is not good. You may bring that emotional baggage into the next one. Give yourself time to heal and concentrate on you for a while. Trust the supply of eligible bachelors won't run out anytime soon. Best of luck to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2013): Dump him, block him on everything and if he kills himself (he won't) then who cares? He'll be gone either way. If a woman ever tried that with me and actually went through with it I wouldn't feel bad for one second. They're out of my life either way.
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reader, anonymous, writes (17 May 2013): from my experience nothing stops this kind of emotional blackmail like an instantaneous call to the cops telling them of this guys stated intentions they'll have him in for a 72 hour psyche observation so quick it will make his head spin.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (17 May 2013):
 IF he threatens to harm himself to keep you he's emotionally blackmailing you to stay and that's no good.
What you do is you tell the current boyfriend "WE aren't good anymore and I want us to not be a couple. I am NOT responsible for you and if you harm yourself it's on you. IF you tell me you are going to harm yourself I am required to report it to the authorities and have them place you in protective custody. I am telling you that we are to no longer have ANY contact. I will not take calls or messages from you and if you show up at my home I will not open the door and will call the police to report a trespasser."
Then you go NO CONTACT... you block his email address, you block him on all social media, you block his phone number.
IT will take a few months of being very strong and IGNORING HIM 100% DO NOT give him ANY contact at all. EVEN NEGATIVE contact will encourage him.
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reader, SensitiveBloke  +, writes (17 May 2013):
 His threat to kill himself is just a manipulative ploy to stop you breaking up with him, and it's worked, hasn't it?
You have to be strong and tell him it's over and then stop seeing him. It's gonna hurt, but that's what you must do.
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