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writes:I have been pleading and begging my boyfriend that we go away for a weekend together, its been four months since we have been able to spend that quality time together. Finally I organised a really beautiful beach house for this weekend. This morning he phoned and cancelled on it because he has to play cricket. The last four months we havent been able to go away because he has rugby on every sat. This weekend he has a free sat cos hes rugby team are not playing, but now that cricket team is asking him to play. Ive been upset at him because it seems like there is always an excuse not to go away with me. I have been waiting 4 months for one weekend, and Im getting tired of begging him for this. I was upset and he put the phone down on me, not returning my calls now. Am I wrong to be upset about this? What else could be going on with him? Im really confused and hurt. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionXena, I have been with him for a year and a half. The pregnancy wasnt planned. He seemed really happy about it, he tells me that he loves me but that he cant take the fighting. Ironically I have also begged him to stop the fighting too. We were fine for two weeks and now he has started up again. We have the most important scan tomorrow morning, my 3d untrasound. I dont know why he would choose to ignore me now
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionhe is a father allready, has two children from his previous marriage.. Im giving up on him, he causes so much frustration and stress on me, i kepp on feeling pains everytime this happens as if im about to miscarry.
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (14 March 2007):
 The baby brings your question into a different light. I've heard of men who until the time the baby is born are in denial of what is about to happen. Maybe that's what all these sports exercises are about (unless he is a professional player and is required by his contract to be there for the team every weekend). Still, it's not right that he doesn't have time for you.
You ask "how is he going to have time for the baby?", and that's a very good question. Maybe you should ask him that. And while you're in an inquisitive mode you could ask him how he feels about becoming a father.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI am 6 months pregnant with his baby. And its not helping that he doesnt have time fo rme, im thinking how is he going to have time for the baby?
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reader, dragonette +, writes (14 March 2007):
No, you're NOT wrong to be upset with him. I think you should go away for a weekend by yourself and seriously consider if this guy is worth keeping.
Four months is a long time to be busy, especially since you've been begging him to spend time with you. If he had wanted to spend time with you, he would have made time to be with you. So obviously the cricket team was more important to him than you were.
And the way he acted, canceling the vacation and then not taking your calls because you got upset, is just immature.
Do you think maybe he's been trying to ease out of the relationship because he's too chicken to break up with you?
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 March 2007): You have every right to be upset and angry and to top it off he puts the phone down on you. Something is not right here. You two have to seriously talk.
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