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writes: Need advice from both male and female. I have got back with my boyfriend. I really really love him and want to really make him want me. He says that he does now, but i really want to shock him and become something he has always dreamed of. I want to be different cause im fed up of doing the same all the time. I do ask him what things he likes but he never gives me any answers. There is one thing that he likes and thats anal but i have tryed that i just can't do it cause it feels to horrible and it puts me right off the hole thing. Has anybody got any tips or advice or any ideas that they can share. Bare in mind have to small children so time is limited. Reply to this Question
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reader, beenthere +, writes (9 February 2006):
you shouldn't need to change yourself for any man(well obviously there are some exceptions like if you're actually doing something wrong. smeedle is right. he's with you. he should be with you because you are who he wants not because you could be what he wants to turn you into
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (8 February 2006):
 Good that you have got back together, bad that you feel you want to please him enough to do things you are not comfortable with, at first I thought an immage change like hair and clothes was enough but it sounds like you want to spice up sex as well.
Spicing up the bedroom antics is fine but you say you want to be the person he dreams of, well that should be the person he is with now, you!!
Changing your hair is one thing, having anal sex when you dont like it and it hurts is entirely another, I have never liked anal sex but some people do and thats fine but I would not do it just to turn a guy on or to please him, neither should you, so what else can you do, well try different positions, maybe a bit of spanking as long as this does not get out of hand and you both like it.
Try watching porn movies together, kinky underwear or outfits, play out a fantasy when the kids are away or in bed, maybe if you have the money and someone to mind the kids you could plan a night away in a hotel, book a room and plan with him to perform one of his fantasies and one of yours, buy anything you need, pack the KY and have a night of fun, lots of booze and debauchary!!
But do not do anything you dont want to just because it will make him happy, sex is a two way thing.
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