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writes: I was in a relationship for a long time and it ended about a year ago. I have done everything I think I should have done to get over it....travelled, dated other guys, took courses, went out with friends, dated online and I am not getting anywhere and I still am not over it. In fact I do not feel much better than I did a year ago when he broke it off? I am wondering if this is obsession. I also wonder if getting some professional help would assist. Life is so short and I just want to go back to being the bubbly happy girl that I once was. Any replies greatly appreciated. Reply to this Question |
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reader, ariel  +, writes (11 August 2006):
 What is stopping you from being that happy bubbly girl you once were???
You need to close those doors left ajar in your head and stop those conversations you have with yourself.Stop constantly thinking about your past and what ifs.You are focusing on the pain of the past. STOP!!!!!!!!!!
Change those thoughts,ask youself How is my life better than it use to be? What made me smile today? Who loves me?How have I moved one step closer to my goals?
What I am trying to say is change the way you are talking to yourself,eventually your attitude will change.
Only you can make yourself happy ,NO ONE else.xxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2006): Do get some counselling; it is never a bad idea, just talking to someone who knows the right questions to ask to get you thinking, feeling, dealing, and coping will do wonders for you.
I think that there is a lack of a "good" reason that doesn't sit right with you and you are hung up as you haven't fully gotten closure over it all.
Seek a counselor first. See if going to him for answers will help or if you should really just let it all go.
Life is indeed too short to get caught up in the mire of the past.
Best of wishes Sweetie.
*hugs*
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