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writes:My fiancé and I plan on not using protection on our honeymoon except for when she says it's time to start "being careful". That should be about the last few days of our week in Florida. She isn't okay with birth control so I will use a condom. Her mother talked to her about it and they feel this is the best way. What are the chances of her becoming pregnant even if her cycle remains the same?
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reader, just a female  +, writes (4 February 2011):
 Ok well I would just like to add that no matter what time of her cycle she CAN get pregnant. It doesnt matter if you go by her most fertile day and her not so much days, she could still get pregnant. Is a baby what you want? It's not certain she would get preganant but you are taking the risk if you have unprotected sex without birth control.Why do you think she won't get pregnant by going by fertile days? At your age it think you should know that a women could still get pregnant. There are 365 days of the year a women can get pregnant not one.Congrats on you engagement! I know it sounds bad, but if you don't want the risk it means you might be wearing a condom.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 January 2011): Thanks for the info, but I was told that woman can only get pregnant on that one day so we would need to be careful on that day and a few days before it. I was reading up on natural family planning. It seems to work, you just have to know when fertile or not. She has been keeping track of her cycle and will do so from now on. We get married April 9th so by then she should have a good idea of what to do as far as when we are clear to have unprotected sex and when not to. ---original post creator
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reader, FloridaCatGirl +, writes (29 January 2011):
 Looks like everybody has given some good suggestions. I just wanted to add one thing. Under the most ideal conditions (ideal vaginal/uterine environments, fertile cervical mucous, strong sperm health, etc), it is thought that sperm may be able to survive between six and seven days. So... you may want to take that into consideration as well!
Congratulations! Have a wonderful honeymoon!!!
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reader, xanthic +, writes (29 January 2011):
 If you don't want her to get pregnant, use some form of protection each and every time you have sex. It doesn't matter where she is in her cycle, women can get pregnant even while they're menstruating. Is going without it really worth risking pregnancy and all that comes with it?
A no-hormone copper IUD would be a good choice, ask her if she's open to getting one. It requires a minor procedure at the OB/GYN but it's painless and quick. There may be some side effects, but having one gives you both one less thing to worry about and is completely reversible.
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reader, Odds +, writes (29 January 2011):
 The chances are high. Condoms are one of the least effective means of preventing pregnancy - better than pulling out, sure, but not good enough. And the cycle is not a perfect predictor of fertility; it can vary depending on the environment, or she could just get pregnant outside of her most fertile time - nature is rarely kind enough to be precise, especially when imprecision would be a hassle.
Plus, condoms on your honeymoon? That's awful.
Is her stance against birth control based on religion, or on concern for the chemical side effects? If the former, she's kind of missing the point in the passages about "spilling the seed upon the ground," if she's alrigh with condom use. If the latter, there are alternatives that don't use chemicals.
In either case, an IUD (interuterine device) would most likely be acceptable, and certainly more effective.
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reader, C. Grant  +, writes (29 January 2011):
 The chances are excellent unless you use some form of birth control *every time*. The term for a woman who "isn't okay with birth control" is *mother*.
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