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writes:Me and my boyfriend are so deep in love. And he's perfect for me. We're perfect for each other. I always thought "Your too great, whats wrong with you!" =D and i never saw it. But now, i think i know. His parents are very very protective of him and controling. He's 18 years old, and believes he has to obey their every word because when he comes home from college, they supply his housing and all. Because of this, we dont get to do lots of stuff we want when he's home after such a long time from being away. And when he's not allowed to do anything because he has to "bond" with his mom and 8 yr old sister, i call him up later, and ask him how it was. His usual response is "we did nothing". Should an 18 yr old be forced to "bond" with his 8 yr old sister and parents? Shouldnt he step up for himself and say "Hey, im an adult, i can go out when i want and i DONT NEED A CURFEW!!" ???? yes he always has to be home at the time his parents tell him to be home. What can i do to make it easier on me, and better for our relationship? Because when i dont get to see him for such long periods of time, its so hard that he's so close, but still so far away... He says he doesnt want to do any of this "bonding"... But i think his mother wants him to be the "MOMMAS BOY" he's not... And i think making him spend time with a sister that's 10 years younger, is a bit too much.. especially when i only get to see him once or twice, when she'll get to see him the other 5 whole days! ahh lol help?! (and neither of us have our liscense but my parents always offer to do lots of the driving.)
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 November 2007): Just tell him to grow a set of balls and act like an adult.
I mean why would any self-respecting 18 year old stay at home with mum if he's got a girl like willing to have some fun?
Seriously... whatever you do, don't make it seem like you WANT to come between him and his family. Just gradually wean him of that leech of a mother. Going to a party and drinking until he's drunk usually does the trick. Or fooling around so he doesn't know what time it is helps too.
Wrack your brains. You'll think of something to make him realise how much a little danger can make him feel alive.
Flynn 24
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