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writes:My boyfriends friends come round our house every sunday, but when they do they are really horrible to me and make fun of me, my boyfriend just says there joking and not to worry, but it really upsets me, i was so upset last sunday that i made my self sick, and cried alone in the bathroom, what can i do to stop them being mean to me? Reply to this Question
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reader, Basschick  +, writes (20 August 2007):
 I'm guessing you never had brothers that tormented you from the moment you woke up, until you went to sleep. Just tease them right back. They are probably exerting normal male behavior for this age, trying to get a rise out of you. They want to see what you're made of. Are you one of those girls who can take their crap and give it right back to them, or do you wilt under pressure? Stop letting them win this game. Just laugh it off and turn the joke on them or poke fun at them about something else. They are trying to pull you into their little male bonding routine so they'll feel more comfortable hanging out with you and your b/f. Stop being the 'girlie-girl' and be a tom-boy for awhile. When they figure out they can't send you sobbing into the bathroom, they'll accept and resepct you and you'll have alot more fun when they come over. They're behavior is annoying yes, but harmless. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): you need to stick up for yourself, tell his friends that they dont have to be such jerks, and tell your boyfriend how much this is affecting you. if you can't get the guys to stop by yourself, then you should both confront them about it.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2007): Hi love,
Next time they come round make sure you have made yourself as confident as poss, dont let them see that this silly childish behaviour is bothering you as this is where they get the enjoyment from, They probably dont realise just what they are doing...
Making yourself sick is not helping you at all I had anorexia when I was a little younger than you because of some stupid remarks at school...
Dont let others ever make you feel less than you are. Hold your head up high, busy yourself read a mag do anything in your power to show that any remark they make cannot get to you, get a mate of your own to be there or if this situation is one where you really cant face go out with a mate.
But I would most def not let them get to me there remarks would only make me stronger as I would look on it as for every nasty thing they said would make me stronger inside and keep thinking that way smiling to myself inside and then before you realise it your smiling outside...
DONT LET THEM WIN! I think your fella could stick up for you more often really if he wont listen, dont go on, Turn this negative into a positive hunny and let us no how you do I for one am rooting for you to beat them at there own game TAKE CARE LOVE MANDY XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
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reader, skyebabe +, writes (20 August 2007):
 U NEED TO SAY THAT IT IS UPSETTING U AND IF THEY MAKE A JOKE OF THAT SURELY YOUR BOYFREIND WILL C IT AND SORT IT OUT X
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