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female
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41-50,
anonymous
writes:This guy friend of mine, we worked together until his contract was canceled. When we worked together he liked to flirt with me and stuff, but we never get into anything b/c he had a GF and we were just joking.Now, his GF dumped him, so he's trying to look new places and people. I like him and want him to know I'm here, but he act like he's not interested some times. He makes me think he likes me, but never ask me out or hang out although I hint him to do so. I think he knows I like him, but I don't want to be that obvious and if he really liked me as we used to be close when at work, How can I get him to look for me as something else?He says he fancies me as sexually b/c of the comments he makes about me and to me, but I don't want to played either. Help please!
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reader, OhGetReal  +, writes (28 August 2010):
 I don't like guys who make sexual comments to me when I am not dating them, nor do I like them to do that especially when they have a girlfriend. Did you ever consider that his girlfriend dumped him because he wasn't sincere in his commitment to her? Who want the job of girlfriend anyway, how many girlfriends has a 34 (or) year old man had you reckon?
If he just broke up with a girlfriend, his ego is wounded, and he is going to be looking for a sexual romp and an intense rebound fling to make himself feel better, more than likely, he doesn't sound like the self reflective type who would take a break from dating to learn about what went wrong, how he could do better, he's not into that, he's into taking care of Mr No. 1.
If you want to date him and get the job of girlfriend, then I'd let him go have his fling and be a friend, and let the friendship develop and see if it takes off into a budding romance. But don't mistake sexual come ons as romantic feelings...he may not even be capable of them.
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reader, mizz.butterflies +, writes (28 August 2010):
 Ok,you need to be smart here. First,guys are a little slow.
So he might not even suspect you like him. Try to get him to spend some time with you. Say you wanna watch this movie,and ask him if he would like to come along. Make it instant : For example you're reading the newspaper,or youre checking the movies online,he's right there,and BOOM you make the suggestion.IF he likes you,most likely he'll come with ya.If he asks you if its a date,say its not. He needs time to heal,and he's confused right now. So what you should do is try to build ur relationship with him on a friendly level (from working mates to friends) and when he catchies stronger feelings for u he'll ask u out. :-) BE COOL
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 August 2010): I dont suggest getting into a relationship with him right away because if he were to start dating you would probably be a rebound. If hes flirting with you some days and ignoring you the next it sounds like he doesnt really know what he wants to do.
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