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writes:My boyfriend and I have been together for 4 years and have been living together for 3 years. Almost everyday his friends or his brother come over and play either madden or Modern Warfare 2 until late at night and one of his friends ends up sleeping over maybe like 3 times a week. His friend sleeps over in our room which i just don't think is ok when your in a relationship, i jusy kinda think its weird and makes me feel uncomfortable.I've spoken to my boyfriend about this before but he just seems to keep letting it happen. I've told him its affecting our relationship because we never get ANY alone time and honestly its starting to affect my sex drive. How should I handle this? Please help, o need some sang provacy from his friends and i feel like im in a relationship not just with my boyfriend but with his friends as well :/
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): I love madden and modern warfare 2 also! I can understand how addicting this game can be. It's so hard to stop playing. But I do. Because I love my fiancé more than it.
Don't get me wrong it took me a while to understand why it bothered her so much.
Tell him straight out. No sugar coating. You need to be direct and blunt. Not mean, but blunt. When you are both happy tell him clearly and don't make it about it's either them or me.
But just tell him he needs to tone it down a lot of notches. No more sleepovers for a while until you feel comfortable again and then only in moderation.
You seem very understanding for letting him do it all this time.
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 January 2010): This is such a common problem nowadays in young men. Gaming takes priority over their personal lives and relationships and ultimately can end in a split. The fact that he has friends sharing a room is totally unacceptable and you have to lay down the law on this. Don't accept it happening one more time, tell him if he wants to share a room with his buds he is welcome to but tell him you wont be there, and don't make this an idle threat, if he does let it happen make a huge deal of it and leave the room or even better if possible the house, stay with a friend or relative until he either sees sense or decides his gaming buds are more important to him.
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reader, CaringGuy  +, writes (26 January 2010):
You tried being nice and you hinted about it. Now be direct. Tell him straight that it is not fair that he has his friends over all the time and you won't put up with it because it's affecting your relationship. If he still persists, then he isn't ready for a relationship and you need to move on, because you're second best. Warn him, then if nothing changes, move on. If you don't, you'll be wasting all your time.
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