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female
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anonymous
writes:Hello.I have been in a relationship with a man for a little over a year now. His ex-wife (they were married three years) is still contacting him constantly. They do not have children together and she has no reason to be contacting him. She will call him and say she can't handle him being with me and that she wants him back. She works for a magazine and has sent him numerous magazines with pictures of him and her in them, and writes about them. Am I out of line to get mad about this? Or is she the one that is out of line? And if it is her, what should I do?Thank you!
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reader, friendleyness +, writes (15 April 2008):
if you are mad you have a right to be. and as for him, ask him to stop calling her. if this situation continues then tell him to leave, because if you let him keep talking to her then there's a chance he could go back to her. but even if he goes back to her you still have a life and as long as you have life you can find someone else.
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reader, Annalisa  + ♥, writes (15 April 2008):
 It's fair enough that you should be annoyed, but they were married! Assuming they loved each other, most people marry with the intention of spending their whole life together, so breaking up is hard to accept.
How does he feel?
Why are they no longer together?
If he defenately doesn't love her any more, he should tell her to leave you two alone and move on with her life.
If he doesn't, I'd question why.
God bless you and good luck!
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reader, Isabella1974  +, writes (15 April 2008):
 No darling you are not out of line, she is. There relationship is over, she needs to move on. It is understandable you are upset,has you husband made it clear that he does not want her contacting him any longer. Can you partner change his number. He needs to be firm and tell her to stop this now. Ensure he is no giving her any encouragement, i am not saying he is, but she needs to be told plain and simple to go away and your boyfriend needs to do this. I hope this helps you a little xxx
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reader, Ms. Intuition  +, writes (15 April 2008):
You are absolutely not out of line. U hav every right to be mad. Talk to him about it. Tell him how u feel. Take note of how he acts towards these constant phonecalls. It could be that he's being too friendly. Wat he needs to do is tell her where she stand. YOU are his wife now. An alternative would be for you to cal her and talk to her politely. Let her know that u respect wat they had bt nw its time for her to move on. Hope that helps. The first bit worked for me! My boyfriends ex hasnt called since!
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 April 2008): Hi, ,
In my opinion there is nothing wrong with him chatting to her every now and again but if she calls him all the time, then i too would be angry,
I think you should talk to you partner about how this makes you feel see how he feels you never know in this situation maybe he hates it too.
At the end of the day he should just tell her that they got divorced & its over. I think she needs to get herself a life and stop messing with yours and his!!
Good luck with all
Take care
Lu x
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