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writes:I've dated my boyfriend for 2 years. I love him very much. He has a 7 years old daughter from his last relationship (she lives with the mom right now). She's a very nice girl but just like my bf, she's really stubborn. She gets frustrated if she tries something and doesn't work. I know she doesn't have anything against me, but it makes it very difficult for me to play with her when her attitude is like that all the time. I learn to just let it go because that's the way she is. Is there anything I can do that will make our time together more fun?I'm not a parent myself and I'm also from another culture too. I just don't understand why kids will act like that. In my culture, she will be in trouble by the parents a long time ago. Reply to this Question
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reader, Tommy7  +, writes (18 October 2007):
You need to teach her about losing and handling stress.
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reader, rcn +, writes (18 October 2007):
 You need to look at what the girl has been through. I heard someone say one, when people split up they don't need a lawyer, they need a counselor for their children. It sounds as if this is a way for her to express her being hurt by what took place.
Just keep reminding her that you are not trying to replace her mother. That you love her dad, and love her too. That you would like to have a friendship with her, and be able to make her time with you pleasant also.
Why don't you try asking her. What can I do to make your visits more enjoyable. You'd be surprised of how much kids come up with the answer.
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