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writes:Me and my bf have been going through a lil tough patch recently, hes doesnt have time for me and hardly responds via text or rings me.This is possibly due to his long hours and football training. However I dont think it takes much time to send a quick text.In an argument over text last night, out of anger he said "dont you get it, ive been using you for sex, why do you think i dont hug you or meet you in public, you are not even all that goodlooking".I was gobsmacked, and completely okay with his honesty and told him if thats how he feels, then fine but its abit immature as hes a grown man.Soon after he said he does care for me and that he's trying his best to make it work but theres only so much he can do, his time is restricted.Those comments have really hurt me deep within. I dont know what to do anymore. He text me this morning saying "are you still talking to me?" to which i later responded "i have nothing against you, you are how you feel"
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2011): Does he meet you in public?
if not then you have your answer - either way I think you will find it hard to continue seeing him after that little outburst
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reader, Kyle007  +, writes (19 August 2011):
People SAY things impulsively, but when they write things down, type them or text them, they have time to think about what they are saying. So it may have been out of anger, but it sounds like how he really feels.
If you are comfortable with just being used for sex, have no worries.
Also, maybe next time you choose someone, make them having available time for you a qualification.
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reader, bunnyblueeyes +, writes (19 August 2011):
 No matter how bad the argument what he said was unforgivable.
It can't be taken back. Let him know that you have had enough, and you're better than that.
If he hasn't got time for you then tell him its over and find someone who wants to spend time with you.
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reader, Vanessa_Twinkle +, writes (19 August 2011):
Wow i´m really sorry, that must´ve hurt you a lot, ýou two need to have a talk and he needs to decide what his priority is, i mean a quick text doesnt take longer than a minute to send,just to say hello or something, tell him how upset you are about it and that if he´s wanting it to work he´s gotta give you some of his time too. About what he said i´m sure it´ll still hurt for ages and you should ask him why he said it, and if there is any truth in it.
If he continues like that i think you should find someone else, someone who´s willing to spend time on and with you.
Hope it works out for you two..
Good luck :)
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