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*lcoBabe
writes:I met this guy in the internet. He lives in the US and just came to Singapore for a vacation. He was born in Singapore and he usually goes here for a vacation. He told he'll be back in the US but then, he decided to stay and told me it's because of me. We fell in love the first time we met and a very romantic relationship started. He was so sweet and we usually dream about our future family. I thought he was the man of my dreams and o so perfect to be real. Everyday my love grows stronger for him and i can feel that he too loves me more each passing day. But then, fear started to crawl in my head. After a month, I notice something different and I told myself, "Is he for real?" These are the reasons why I asked myself that question:1. I once asked him about his ID but then he told me he's not carrying any and that he leaves it in the office. Sometimes, it occurs in my head that he's using a false name. But why?2. He calls me everyday but then, whenever he gets home, he doesn't text me that much or call. He calls sometimes but always in a hurry. Is he married? But sometimes i give the benefit of the doubt because whenever we are together, he drives me home very late at night. But then, he keeps his cellphone away from me. Sometimes, he will just ignore some calls.3. He is so busy during weekdays. He tells me that he's with his brothers or relatives. He doesn't even call me as often as he does during weekdays- where he stays in the office most of the time.4. I don't even know his land line phones in his condo and in his office.Presently, we are on our third month. I asked him if he's married but he keeps on telling me he's not and that there are things in his work and in his past that he thinks must be kept away from me. He also told me that he loves me so much and he would do anything humanely possible to keep me with him.He is so mysterious and sometimes I think, am I wasting my time with this guy? He always tells me he loves me so much that without me, his life would be miserable.But how could I trust his words if I couldn't convince myself that he's for real. Thinking about it causes pains in my head and heart. Do I have to end the relationship? Does he really love me? But why is he acting so strange? I'm afraid that one day he'll fly and be gone and just leave me without a word or so.
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reader, AlcoBabe +, writes (24 May 2009):
AlcoBabe is verified as being by the original poster of the questionReally? Do you really think he's married? This is so painful for me. This is a nightmare.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2009): You can't trust his words, he shows all the classic signs of being married and/or not who he says he is. You are involved in a fantasy relationship, not a real one. You don't have to end it but you'll be wasting a lot of time on him without this going anywhere.
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