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writes: Hi, I'm 16 year old male, I would class myself as very forward when it comes to relationships, although they never last, I'm pretty happy most of the time, however I'm worried this maybe influencing what I need help with.I have a friend whom I've known most of my life, and although we live apart from one another now, I worry about him, as he has never had a girlfriend. He's not gay, nor is he shy around girls, but last time I spoke to him he was extremely worried about the fact he had never had a girlfriend, and as time goes by he seems less and less able to be comfortable around girls.I tend to not give relationship advise, as I'm only 16 and have never really had an amazing relationship myself.I just wanted to make sure he wasnt the only one of his age that had never had a girlfriend, in modern day society most kids have had a g/f by about 12, and I was no exception, any help you can give me that I could maybe pass on to him, and put his mind at rest would be great. Hes always been there for me, I need to be there for him.thanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHi Danny, don't worry, my frend still doesent hav a gf, and now to kick me in the teeth nor have I for about a month, I also went to an all boys school for many many years, I am however lucky enough to live in a nice community where I meet girls. Don't get frustrated,A girl will come along, even if that does sound like I'm answering my own question. You sound like a good guy!
Jon
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 August 2006): hi im danny im a 16 year old male and have never had a girlfriend seems like it isnt abnormal to have never been in a relationship with a girl especially at this age. I dont think there is much advice you can give to your friend apart from that there's no rush to start dating he's still young and that the right girl will come but not before its time. I'm starting to feel frustrated myself as i used to go to an all boys secondary school meeting girls became that much harder to come by, i chat to girls as much as i can on the streets that im attracted to but they just dont seem to much interested at the moment maybe its just not my time either dont worry mate *sigh*
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2006): Woah-where have I been? I have been raising teens the past 10 years, with one still at home and quite frankly, none of them or any and all of their friends, were dating at 12 years old! I know some do it, but a large percentage don't. While it's nice that you want to give your friend advice about dating...it may help if you simply tell him "it's okay NOT to be dating". So, tell him to relax and not worry. There is no 'set' age to begin dating. Everyone does it at their own pace. He is likely feeling the peer pressure of his guy buddies, always talking about girls and their dating adventures.
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reader, PrunellaGringepith +, writes (18 April 2006):
 There is nothing wrong with you friend not having a girlfriend by 16, but I understand his worries is all his friends have or have had girlfriends and he hasn't. Maybe he needs to work on building up his confidence around girls. Girls love a guy who can be confident and funny and relaxed around them. Why not suggest to you friend that he join some kind of group or club where there are boys and girls as members. Anything will do, acting, photography, a martial arts class (as long as there are girls). That way he will have plenty of opportunities to talk to girls about something they have in common, it's a great way to meet and be friendly with the opposite sex.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 April 2006): He may also be gay and in denial or not ready to come to terms with it to himself yet. He needs to know that if that's the case, he has people who he can trust to be there for him, and that it's OK.
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reader, Sweetie Pie +, writes (18 April 2006):
 Hello there...
If your friend is so worried that he has never had a gf then why doesnt he get one?I know it seems hard but its really easy.
Even though i'm only 12 there is a lot of guys who have never even been friends with a girl!In fact a couple of my boyfriend's friends havent had a gf.I know their only 12 but hey i'm trying to help the best i can!
Dont Worry Things WILL get better for Your Friend!
SWEETIE PIE
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