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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Hi poeple my names Annie I'm almost 18 and Ive just started a new job as a cook in a food place (not exactly)a career but nontheless its employment.Well theres this really nice guy I met there named brendan,hes foreign and moved to my part of the world last year.We got along so well and I was like great a new freind.When we were on our break he took me to some seats and he leant forwards and looked me straight in the face like right up close..Im a really self-consious person and shrunk away from him.So we started talking and I started to become nervous because he seemed to be so intent,he kept staring me in the face and I got really nervous so I avoided his eyes and suggested we go inside..also the conversation was waining.When we got inside it was awkward and i was feeling depressed and he didnt no what hed done wrong.As we started to get busy I started to relax and at one point his hand accidently touched my leg and I was like OHMYGOD (its so wrong saying this).. and a we kept leaning on each other and playing stupid games,I started to think This guys so nice,so when I left I asked if he wanted to hang out sometime,he looked a bit taken a-back for a second then said yes,so I gave him my number.Two days later I saw him again at work..but when he walked in I was surprised because it hadnt ocurred to me on that first day I met him that he was really good-looking and suddenly I felt so insecure and ugly and..well that someone like him could never be interested in me.He was thrilled to see me..He hadnt wrung me over the weekend but I didnt exspect him to, he had several shifts over those two days.I had stupidly assumed maybe hed been put off by my complaining from the otherday,but seeing how excited he was to see me I guess he wasnt.Things went terribly that day,he kept trying to talk to me and I just went all quite till he got bored and was awkward with me..rushed away as soon as he could,he seemed angry with me..the last time I saw him was even worse,we said Hi and nothing more..I realise that its my fault,he is trying to be freinds..But i cant seem to warm up to him,hes really good-looking and it makes me feel like im inferior.Im sure I sound really vain as though I believe looks are everything..I dont its just..I dont no,its stupid.I like this guy..and I think he liked me,what should I do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 February 2011): If sumone was in my face like that i would of whacked him one , i persoonly hate sumone being in my "bubble" and im sure if he was that close too you and saw your body languaged he would of known that it made you uncumftable. and just did what he wanted to do. i also think if sumone makes u feel ugly and insecure compared to them you dont wanna be with them coz if ur with them u may think tht everyday. so my advice stay away from him RED LIPZ XX
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reader, Denise32  +, writes (5 February 2011):
 The way he was staring at you so intently was not very considerate of him, particularly to continue when he must have seen it was making you uncomfortable.
We all have "boundaries" - i.e., personal space which, if another person (be a relative or a stranger) gets too close can make us feel like we're being "invaded." Sounds as that's what was going on between the two of you.
I wouldn't bother trying to talk with him at the moment if I were you. Keep your distance, and see if he gets the message........
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