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He's not texting me as often and seems distant...how do I handle this?

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Question - (18 March 2008) 3 Answers - (Newest, 19 March 2008)
A female Australia, anonymous writes:

I feel like my bf has been acting a bit weird lately. Like he used to ALWAYS text me non stop and he would prety much always reply straight away to mine. Now, there is usualy a long wait for a reply and he doesnt text me as often. When I see him he seems a bit more distant I guess. I wonder if its something to do with me, like maybe hes not interested in me anymore or maybe something unrelated to me is stressing him out or makng him upset?

Whenever I ask him how he is he always says good, so i dont know :S

Should I just say to him next time I see him 'are you ok? you seem a bit different lately'? Should I tell him how it upsets me that hes been texting me less. I dont want him to think im obsessive.

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A female reader, Confuddled77 United Kingdom +, writes (19 March 2008):

Confuddled77 agony auntmine's been acting distant this past week and i confronted him about it last night. he told me that he thinks we spend too much time together, which to me means, he wants some space. I backed off...have so far only sent him one message to tell him that i hope he has a good day at work and that i love him and miss him. I usually send walls of texts but I felt like that was smothering him a bit too much. so just waiting to hear from him to see what he has to say about the 3 lined PM, instead of the usual 100 liners, i sent him this morning.

Act cool...if he really loves you and wants to be with you, he'll come running after you. If not, then it wasn't meant to be.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (19 March 2008):

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Thannks for your advice. I am 20 years old and my bf is 1 month younger. The thing is though if I dont reply to a text message of his straight away he gets worried and will send me heaps saying 'are you ok? are you angry at me?'. Its like he doesnt realise I could be busy doing something else yet its ok for him to take a while? :S

p.s. i wish they were never invented too- so much miscommunication comes from them.

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A reader, anonymous, writes (18 March 2008):

Try and get in touch with him a bit less. Dont be the first to send a text and see what happens. I hate texts and wish they had never been invented. My blokes used to text me about 10 times a day, now he even forgets to charge his phone and i may get one text per week, but that is ok, i do the same to him. Back off and let him do some of the running. I wouldnt pour your heart out to him if the relationship is very new, but after a few months let him know just how you feel. Dont run after them, that is the key. also, how old are you two? Dont be pleading for texts or he may see you as needy and a lot of blokes just hate that. Be independent, strong and a bit unavailable. spend your texts and time with your mates and a bit less running after matey boy. He will come running in the end, if not, then get rid.

take care

xx

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