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36-40,
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writes: sophomore year i started getting close with my school athletic director who is in his 40s married with kids. hes aweeesom, the nicest person ever, and sooo cute. i love him to death. i babysat his kids a few times and his wife is beautiful. he helped me with some bad sport situations i got into and i cant ever be more thankful. there was something about him tho. i dont know what it is. i wouldnt call it a crush ...but then again i dont know wat to call it. wat do u call it when youre excited to see that certain person at a sports event that youre at, when you look around the room when you hear his name or voice, when it makes your whole day when he says hi to you once in the hallway, when you stay for a whole worthless game of basketball just because hes sitting there watching, when you get really upset when they move to a different school? please help, i dont want to think i have a crush on someone 20 some odd years older than me...
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reader, smeedle  +, writes (10 January 2007):
 Sadly this is never going to go anywhere and is just a crush as you suspect, we get these all the way through life and they are not just for when we are teenagers.
Crushes are nice, they give us a warm feeling but they can also hurt us, as we usually worship from afar and sometimes try and go one step nearer and do something to attract that person and see if they want us.
This is were a crush is dangerouse as oftern the other person is just a nice and friendly person and they can get very offended if we come on to them and they were just being themselves so be ware, adore from afar and leave it at that.
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2007): Sounds like you are very infatuated with this man, he is nice to you and you look up to him, it is great to have an older friend like that, but be careful.
You are really in love with the idea of him, you don't really know him that well do you and you are not in a romantio realtionship so you are sort of fantasizing of the possibility of that....and it gets you excited, it is unrequited though and you can really waste a lot of time focusing energy and attention on someone who is unavialble...he has a family and you don't want to come in between him and his family.
I suggest you stop trying to find him when ever and where ever you can and try to focus more on finding friends in your own age group to hang out with, get to know some boys your own age a little bit better and pretty soon one of them will catch your fancy I am sure...it is a whole lot safer to long for a fantasy than it is to put yourself out there where you might get rejected from someone you could actually date....but do put yourself out there!
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