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writes: pls someone answer me! im 17 and have been with my boyfriend for 1yr and a half. he means the world to me and i to him. he treats me like a queen. but there is one problem. ive never dated before i met him, he was my first, so i keep getting this longing to be single to see what it feels like and to know if im missing out!! sometimes i develop feelings for other guys but i push them down bcoz im happy wit my bf.at the same time, i know they will return bcoz i havnt had a single life and i wish i cud hav looked around a bit more before i met 'the one'. someone pls help me i dnt know wat to do and i know id regret it later if i break up wit my bf, but at d same time, isnt it beter letting him know now then later when things will be more serious?? pls giv me ur opinions i need help!!thanks! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 January 2007): first of all, i want to thank those who answered my question coz i could assure u i took all ur opinions into consideration!!xx now i hav another prob!(surprisingly enough)...i told my bf how i feel about wanting to be single and he didnt take it too bad at first. he respected my decision and understood dat d rel cant progress if these doubts keep coming to me. thing is the followin day, he wanted to meet,and d next,and d next!!i dnt think he could take in d news.i really love him still obviously and he is making things so hard!:( he keeps tellin me dat he needs attention from some1 coz this is gonna be easier fr me since his friends are mine and they are closer to me than to him.he feels alone.plus some guys hav asked me out already and he is feelin really pissed off at dat and i understand but its not my fault i didnt ask them to!!is it ok for me to hav him as a friend when our feelings r still strong?and i told him dat even tho we broke up,i still feel like im in a relationship coz he cnt stand d thought of me wit another guy(which i assured him wont happen anytime soon!) and he keeps wanting to see me!i dnt know wat to do im so confused.do me a favour and help me again!! pls,i dnt know u,but ur opinion means loadz!thanks xxx
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reader, goodbutnotgifted  +, writes (25 December 2006):
 No one can tell you either way teh coice is yours, he treats you well teh otehrs are right, I would sit still but Im rounding 30 and married to an angel. You are at teh point where your friends are talking to you about how awesome it is to go out and dance and party and be free. Freedom is best when your mature enough to know how to enjoy it and be a part of a free comunity. You leave this guy to "experiment" he mmay not be available when your done, or he'd have been experimenting and lost his appeal to you, but I dont know who you are. you could be afraid of turning 40 and having only been with one guy, I dont know. take your time, think about it. Is it just too ordinary knowing the same person for so long? are you bored? If your ready to move on its time. but you might want to ask around. women in their 30's are all wishing theyd known, not even dated but mearly known a guy like your talking about walking away from, so just what are you looking for?
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2006): My opinion, ok, I think if you want to see other people then you should go ahead and do that. Be honest with your boyfriend, tell him straight and tell him you don't want to go behind his back or cheat on him. He will be upset but at least you can go your seperate ways respecting each other and that will mean a great deal to both of you for a long time to come as most people who break up do so quite badly.
Personally though, you will probably become quickly dissatisfied with other people and will miss what you let go of. It's rare to meet people who treat you well and to find yourself in a safe relationship.
But; that's no reason to stay in it if you don't want to right now. You're superly young and it's probably for the best if you experiment by seeing what other people are like.
If you do decide you want to be with other people, please please go about it the right way. All the best with whatever you decide to do!
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reader, BiffyLou +, writes (24 December 2006):
Well you say you really like him, but if you long to be single he might not be the one for you, but then on the other hand being single isn't all that great.
And if your single you might miss this guy of yours.
When your single some guys will see you as a score a one night stand and your heart might get broken.
Hope this helps.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2006): I understand your point darling. You are very lucky to have met the one the first time hunny, beleive me I wish I did. As I had nothing but heartache before I met 'The one', I have made a lot of mistakes and done things that Im ashamed of, now I am happy, settled and content.
My advise to you is stay with your man as long as you can because you will regret it in the long run and by the time you realise this your man might not want to know.
Honestly being single is the worse feeling ever, especially if you are used to being in a long term relationship.
Good luck hunny I know that you will make the right choice xxx
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reader, Nikita  +, writes (24 December 2006):
 Hi there. well, if you are feel that you want to date other guys and experience being single then the kindest thing to do is to end the relationship. You said you will probably regret it but if you stay you may regret it more. I dont think that this guy is 'the one' to be honest, not if you're longing for a single life. You're luckly that he treats you like a queen. There are a lot of women who would love to be in your position but if you're feeling restless then its only fair to him to gently finish it and start your journey as a singleton! You'll have to take a chance that you wont regret it because you obviously cant have both. In the long run, it will be easier to end it now rather than later so good luck okay and I hope you come to the right decision.x
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2006): it sounds like u have a great guy! the single life isnt always that great...u should be 100% that u have the guy u have right now...i ended up cheating on my bf....then i went out with a few other guys after we split..but i regrete it because i relised how great we had it! (and luckly we will probably end up going out again soon)....months ago i had the same feeling....but now i no that having one amazing guy is way better then having tons of short relationships. so really look inside your heart...cause this decision could really change your life
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