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writes: hii so imm 16 and this boy imm dating is 18. we have a rlly good time together and he makes me rlly happy (: we havent had sex yet but we both want to and will probably do it soon. the problem is.. ive had sex with 2 other guys, both of which were on the smaller side of average in penis size. this boy now is 8" and very thick. i have given him a handjob and have witnessed for myself that he is very large. i myself am very small. im 5`1" 105 lbs, very tiny, and excuse this, tight. can jus barely fit 2 fingers inside myself. he has also told me tht he likes to be very very rough during sex, even saying he wants to smack me and "force" me to do things. i have told him tht i am nervous about having sex with him and he says "ill go slow for a little before i go harder" but i am still very nervous! is it inevitable tht it will hurt me when we have sex? how can i make it hurt less? how can i be less nervous? thank uu!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009): Red flags all over the place here! The other posters are right: this man is only thinking about his own pleasure.
And yes, if you do have sex with him it probably will hurt, a lot. Assuming its even do-able. I once dated a man who was a lot taller than me, and larger. The one (and only) time we tried to have sex, it was absolutely impossible. (No, he wasn't trying to be rough).
You'd be well advised to stay away from this boy.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009): I agree with the previous posters. You should be nervous! This guy is going to do whatever he wants to you whether you agree to it or not. Get away from him before he hurts you physically and emotionally!
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 December 2009): If this guy loved you, he would want your fisrt time with him to be loving. Hes only thinking of himself and his own pleasure. I wouldnt becuase you will be hurt mentally and physically by this guy if he going to treat you the way he says hes going to. Yeah, some people like it rough, but that is'nt an excuse to do it like that to someone who has said there nervous about it. If you have respect for yourself, you wouldnt go there...
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reader, Not My Name  +, writes (24 December 2009):
 Respectful and consensual rough play is one thing, but planning to be rough to someone who is not up for it physically and mentally (and you're clearly not if already worried about pain and feel nervous) shows a lack of concern for that persons experience during it.
He obviously is not interested in pleasuring anyone but himself - so you are just a pussy to him, and who gives a shit about the person it is attached to.
I am shaking my head at the thought of you possibly/probably going through with having sex with a guy who is going to force things upon you, but if you do, at least make sure you are properly aroused and lubricated (natural or from a bottle) before proceeding otherwise yeah, your physical atributes, combined with nerves and a rough self satisfying partner could all add up to a bit of pain for you.
Gee ain't that something to look fwd to. The physical pain will subside tho - the greater issue is if you come out of it mentally and emotionally undamaged.
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reader, anonymous, writes (23 December 2009): Get away from this guy. He is not into you, he doesn't care about you and he is only after sex and to say that he is going to be rough and force you to do things is disgusting and criminal. It's called rape.
Seriously, he isn't normal at all, stay far far away from him or you will be sorry and you will be traumatized for life. He will hurt you.
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